Your Comfort Zone

It is an interesting part of what makes us human that we seem to want a certain amount of excitement in our lives, but we also want to balance that need for excitement against the need to feel safe and secure. As a consequence, most of us, if we are really honest with ourselves, are perfectly happy right where we are. Sure, we may be a bit bored or we may feel that stimulation and excitement is notably absent in our lives, but then so too is risk.

Someone once used the analogy of climbing a tree to describe their experience of life. Sadly, I cannot now remember who it was but, as I recall, he said that there are times when we manage to climb onto branches that seem very unsafe and we are so high that it feels as if we might lose our grip and fall to the ground at any time. Yet, looking back on our lives, those times were also the moments we felt most alive.

When you think back to all the big things you have done in your life, the things that still give you a great deal of pleasure looking back on them now, the chances are that they involved doing something risky. Conversely, if you have never really taken any risks at all, then you may feel that you have not really lived yet. It is this lack of excitement in many people’s lives that drives them to replace it with a kind of false risk-taking.

If you think about it, activities such as riding roller-coasters, sky-diving, bungee-jumping, watching horror movies and so on are all fairly safe ways of getting yourself terrified and, of course, we engage in them for the adrenalin rush. There’s nothing wrong with any of those things except when they become a substitute for the excitement of really living your life to the full.

As a wise person once said, “this is life that we are living right now, it is not a dress rehearsal.” So the big question is: are you doing the right thing with your life? When you get to the end of your terrestrial journey, will you be able to say that you have no regrets? Because the rest of your life is still in front of you and the script for your life has not yet been written. There is nothing that dictates that the rest of your life need be anything like the first part. There is only latency and the unerring law of cause and effect.

The law of cause and effect dictates that if you keep doing the same things, you are going to keep getting the same results because like causes always produce like effects. Another way of saying the same thing is the old NLP adage that, “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” So, today, I wanted to challenge you to think about moving out of your comfort zone because that is an important key to getting what you want both in terms of excitement and results.

Moving out of your comfort zone does not involve being reckless, but it does involve risk. Whenever you move out of your comfort zone, it feels scary. But if there is one characteristic that firmly separates winners from the remainder of the field, it is the understanding that making real progress in life often requires you to be willing to step out of your comfort zone. They know that achieving success often involves taking a certain amount of risk.

2 thoughts on “Your Comfort Zone

  1. Delton

    I believe we are creatures of comfort. We may do all we can to be comfortable.
    It is when we get tired or dissatisfied with where we are will we venture out of our,
    “now uncomfort zone”, and reach out for something more comfortable. As long as I am satisfied and happy where I am I will not want to move into another zone.

  2. DR

    Sometimes I think a comfort zone is something totally malleable and fluid. Take this silly example. A carnival comes to town. One day, a person thinks, “No way am I going on that ride, it’s too scary.” But on the next day, they think, “Wow that ride looks really fun and exhilarating. I’m going on it.” So, what changed? The ride is the same ride, the person is the same person, and the only thing that changed was their “comfort zone.” Because one’s comfort zone can change so radically, I’m inclined to think it’s almost something imaginary. Almost like something that can be used as an excuse for laziness. I know that sounds kind of harsh, but I’d be curious what your thoughts are on this.

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