Success Secrets

11 Great Reasons why Smiling makes us More Successful!

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 08:30:00 +0000

First: Our smile shows others people that we are friendly.
If a stranger approached you and gained eye contact with you and then treated you to a broad smile you will have a fairly good idea that they are being friendly and certainly mean you no harm.

By contrast we would find it far more difficult to offer trust to the stranger that wears a scowl or unfriendly face features.

Second: A smile can make people happy.
When someone treats you to a smile, even a stranger, you usually smile back. For that moment you enjoy a flash of positive communication without saying a word. As you walk through a crowed area such as a main street you can do this hundreds times in a very short period of time.

When you smile at someone who is not already smiling and they smile back you have brought a moment of happiness into their lives which, who knows, could last all day.

Third: Smiling is infectious.
When you spend a lot in the company of someone who smiles a lot you will soon discover that their smile starts to wear off on you. It is hard not to return a smile; most of us do it at a subliminal level without thinking.

Fourth: Smiling can make you popular.
Which type of people do you prefer? A person that has a tired and listless face. An expression that may reflect their inner thoughts of boredom and worry? Or, would you prefer someone who is always smiling and shows that they have an enthusiastic passion for life.

I think for the majority of us the choice would be obvious!

Fifth: Smiling can help you to make new friends
In the same way few of us would choice a miserable person for a friend. Lets face it we all want someone who is going to be bubbly and a happy and positive.

Sixth: A smile is usually returned
When someone smiles back at you it make you feel good inside. You have just made a short but very positive communication and possibly the first step in the process of getting to know or making friends with someone new.

Seventh: Smiling makes you positive and happy inside.
When you smile it is hard to feel unhappy, negative or sad in anyway. Smiling gives you enthusiasm and drive, it is also habit forming.

Eight: A smile makes you look far more attractive.
You don’t see many celebrities or media personalities that are not smiling because if you did it is fairly certain that their popularity would quickly start to drop!

Ninth: Smiling also helps make you memorable to others!
Have you noticed that smiling people are usually far more memorable than those that are not? It is fact that you are 3 time more likely to remember the person that is smiling over the one that is wearing a negative or neutral features.

Tenth: Most importantly, smiling is good for your health!!!
When you are smiling you find whatever you are doing far easier. It releases stress, worry and tension that you may have built up throughout the day. Long term, developing the smiling habit will be one of the smartest things that you can do to improve most aspects of your life.

Eleventh: The effects of smiling can last for hours
Whatever problems and challenges you have in your life, smiling temporary puts them and hold. For a while you forget the problems and become positive, and while you are in a positive state you have far more potential and power to advance and improve your life.

Lastly: Smiling is FREE!
You are never going to run short of smiles and will always have enough to go around. When you weigh up the positive points of smiling it is a no brainer decision to do far more smiling and share them with as many people as possible.

Keep smiling.

Belief in yourself

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 21:51:00 +0000

Belief in yourself is the #1 driver of your professional, spiritual, personal, and financial attainment. Belief in yourself is strengthened when you think and act in positive ways. "When you develop yourself to the point where your belief in yourself is so strong that you know you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, your future will be unlimited. To nurture a belief in yourself is a quiet process you must take at least 15 minutes of everyday just for yourself.

Success

Successful individuals have no-limitations belief in themselves. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. These ideas will illustrate success in the working world, in interpersonal relationships, and in developing self esteem and confidence. If you dig down under low self-esteem, or find yourself not believing that you can do, have, or be the things and person you aspire to, what you find is fear: fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of loss of love, fear of not being "enough. If the biggest obstacle to your success is a weak ability to believe in yourself, you are setting yourself up to make a much smaller contribution in life than you are capable of making.

Confidence

A person with a strong sense of self-confidence is happier with their life because they believe in themselves. Your accomplishments will give you satisfaction and enhance your self-confidence. "Self-confidence and a belief in yourself is a must. To instill confidence in others, you first must have confidence in yourself.

"Happiness and self-confidence come naturally when you feel yourself moving and progressing toward becoming the very best person you can possibly be. The quiet and contented assurance that naturally flow from this believe can only increase a person's self-confidence and self-esteem. Isn't it true that people who convey confidence and a positive attitude have a knack for attracting success.

Excellence

Excellence requires an incredible commitment to persist through the ups and downs associated with becoming your best and maintaining your best performance. The experiences of exceptional performers suggest that there are seven critical elements of excellence: Commitment, Belief, Full Focus, Positive Images, Mental Readiness, Distraction Control and Constructive Evaluation.

Commitment is the first essential ingredient guiding the pursuit of excellence. This is required to attain the highest levels of excellence For consistent high level performance you must commit not only to high quality training and maximum performance, but also to adequate recovery. It opens the door to higher levels of excellence, and higher levels of excellence open the door to higher levels of belief.
Not believing in ourselves, or more accurately, our disbeliefs and negative beliefs, usually come from having formed attitudes and actions based on these negatives. By focusing on the positive beliefs we also diminish the effects of the undesirable beliefs because they are no longer our focus. Just as your beliefs are your own, so must your goals be personal. Belief is further strengthened by developing essential mental skills associated with excellence.

The third element of excellence centers around being FULLY FOCUSED: for the duration of the performance on the task at hand in the moment In the zone on the performance totally connecting to learning, experiencing or performing on auto pilot. Focusing is the single most important mental skill associated with performance excellence. Focus leads activation, anxiety, relaxation, learning, mental readiness, personal growth and performance excellence.

The fourth element of excellence uses POSITIVE IMAGES to: dream big dreams, go after your dreams , follow a desired course of action, pursue specific targets or goals. Prepare yourself to act and react in constructive ways, feel the flawless execution of desired performance skills. Create positive feelings about yourself and your capacity, make corrections , remain positive , enhance confidence. Imagery for excellence is holistic in nature, allowing you to pre-experience and re-experience quality performances and desired outcomes with all your senses.

The fifth element of excellence is your MENTAL READINESS to: create and take advantage of learning and performance opportunities to develop essential mental, physical, and technical skills necessary to excel in your pursuit. Plan, practice and prepare effectively, perform to capacity (usually accomplished with a commitment to follow an effective pre-performance routine to enter your best mental "zone" for quality performance).

The sixth element of excellence is CONTROLLING DISTRACTIONS in order to: maintain an effective focus regain an effective focus when distracted before, during or after a performance quickly reenter "the zone" of high performance perform consistently at a high level stick with your own game plan get adequate rest stay on your own best path for personal excellence.

The seventh element of excellence is CONSTRUCTIVE EVALUATION of training and performance situations to: reflect upon what you did well , reflect upon what you can refine or improve. Draw out important lessons from each experience/performance assessing the role of your commitment, attitude, mental readiness, and focus in relation to your performance outcome. Target areas for improvement and act upon the lessons learned.

Motivation is the very heart of self improvement

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 17:58:00 +0000

Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realise that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the 'push' to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend's tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try on the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A - Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

B - Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don't give up and don't give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don't need money. Dance as if nobody's watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you'll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life's greatest 'F' treasures. Don't loose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don't let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self improvement.
L – Learn to love your self. Now isn't that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

P – Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn't raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self improvement.

X – X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on "extras" on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you're just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

Intuition

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 17:52:00 +0000

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality?

When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through listening.

Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere.

Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut feel." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."

On the other hand, feeling through listening or clairaudience is being able to "listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's twitting - ushers in an intense feeling.

They say only a number of people are gifted with intuition. Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies have been sprouting left and right that proclaim that anyone can develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your emotional and psychological state as it is? First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Intuition means releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly, intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it.

With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here are some ways to unlock this gift:

1. Hypnosis

Oh yes, get yourself hypnotized. Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth. Perform self-hypnosis or you can avail of hypnotic programs that can strengthen your intuition.

2. Meditation

Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggage and hurt, you wouldn't be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.

3. Think positive!

A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.

4. Just let go.

What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you could find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.

5. Never expect.

After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clearly, never expect for an answer right away. Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap immediately. Give it a little time then you'd just get surprised that -- wham! -- now you have your answer.

6. Believe in your first impressions.

When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition.

7. Stay happy!

See? All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given that premise, intuition will fall to you easily.

Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by intuition alone. Decisions are easier done if armed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined.

Becoming a good leader

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 08:56:00 +0000

When you are at work, do you get frustrated because things don't seem to be happening the way they're supposed to be? You see people milling around but nothing gets accomplished. And in the daily hustle and bustle, do you feel that your goals remain just that – goals. Then maybe its time for you to stand up and do something about it.

Most people are content just to stand around listening for orders. And it isn't unusual to adopt a follow-the-leader mentality. But maybe, somewhere inside of you, you feel the desire to make things happen – to be the head, not the tail. Then maybe leadership just suits you fine.

Some people believe that great leaders are made, not born. Yes, it may be true that some people are born with natural talents. However, without practice, without drive, without enthusiasm, and without experience, there can be no true development in leadership.

You must also remember that good leaders are continually working and studying to improve their natural skills. This takes a commitment to constantly improve in whatever endeavour a person chooses.

First of all, let's define leadership. To be a leader, one must be able to influence others to accomplish a goal, or an objective. He contributes to the organisation and cohesion of a group.

Contrary to what most people believe, leadership is not about power. It is not about harassing people or driving them using fear. It is about encouraging others towards the goal of the organisation. It is putting everyone on the same page and helping them see the big picture of the organisation. You must be a leader not a boss.

First of all, you have to get people to follow you. How is this accomplished?

People follow others when they see a clear sense of purpose. People will only follow you if they see that you know where you are going. Remember that bumper sticker? The one that says, don't follow me, I'm lost too? The same holds true for leadership. If you yourself do not know where you're headed to, chances are people will not follow you at all.

You yourself must know the vision of the organization. Having a clear sense of hierarchy, knowing who the bosses are, who to talk to, the organization's goals and objectives, and how the organization works is the only way to show others you know what you are doing.

Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It's about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you're subordinates must be.

Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organisation.

Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics.

The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities.

Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.

Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this you can not be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people.

Also, you can not be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution.

It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organisation.

Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.

You should recognise and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realisation will you be able to work as one cohesive unit.

Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It is about you and the people around you.

So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be leader today.

Leading Thoughts (Part 2)

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 08:46:00 +0000

You see positive people are not always pulling you down, in fact they serve to lift us up when we are feeling a bit down. You know even our moods are a result of our thinking, we do not have to learn to be happy, we can do it right this minute, just by thinking about it, when you are feeling a little down, try smiling, you will be amazed at the difference it makes. A smile is worth more value that you could ever put on it, and think what it does for you when somebody smiles at you, yes you
begin to feel better instantly.

Practice going through life with a smile on you face, turn your frown upside down, it's just that simple. And yet so many people miss that very precious feeling that we get from a smile, whether or not we smile or
someone smiles at us.

How often do you see a really negative person smiling, I am sure they don't known how, well we have plenty to give away, so next time you see a sad face SMILE you will be amazed what it will do for you, and just maybe you will brighten up another persons life.

But when it's all boiled down, it is what we think about that decides where we are going in life, and we can't be positive and sad at the same time. If you want to be sad and never get anywhere in life, seek out the negative people to associate with, I am telling you. You will not find that too hard; there are millions of them in the world. BUT if you desire to become a success, keep away from the negative person, Keep your thoughts on the future, NOT THE PAST OR THE PRESENT, because that's where all your negative thoughts come from, you have built them up over the years so there are plenty to pick from.

NO RISE ABOVE ALL THAT and look towards the future and what it has to hold for you if you keep the company of positive people. If you are to succeed in anything you undertake from here on through your life, you must and I mean Must change your thinking towards your goals and dreams. We have learnt that they are simply thoughts, but as thoughts rule our lives we must make them as positive as we can, They must become our leading thoughts, they are the ones that will get us
results.

Anthony

Dare to Dream

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 09:49:00 +0000

Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasied about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualisation, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing. But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this. However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does. On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream. Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things 'you know you can do'. Under another header, write the things 'you might be able to do.' And under one more, list the things that that are 'impossible for you to do.'

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things 'you know you can do'. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads 'you might be able to do.'

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are 'impossible for you to do' to the list of things 'you might be able to do.'

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all. You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned. On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one. Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, "No pain, no gain"? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don't get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible. Yes it works, it really does.

Anthony

Leading Thoughts (Part 2)

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 09:48:00 +0000

Anthony

Dare to Dream

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 19:26:00 +0000

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are 'impossible for you to do' to the list of things 'you might be able to do.'

Anthony

Leading Thoughts Part (1)

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 14:27:00 +0000

If we are to be a success at whatever we do or want then we must become that person who has all the traits we desire. It does not matter what it is as long as it is what you desire. Whatever the desire is, it must become the uppermost thought on your mind. You may be seeking success with becoming rich, losing weight, being the best singer in the world, or the best ball player.

It has to be as vivid in your thoughts as to be real to your subconscious mind. Enough to make the subconscious mind drive you and guide you to the fulfilment of your desires. This thought has to become your number one leading thought, you need to have it in your mind as much as you possibly can, so that it actually becomes part of you.

Lets say you want to become rich, what do you need to think about, lets get to that in a minute, this is what you do instead. When you awake in the morning and many times through the day you say, I wish I was richer, if only I had more money, if only I was paid what I am worth.

What is wrong with this you might ask, well for a start it is all negative, instead of thinking about what you want to be, you are still dwelling in the present. Don't think about what you are, think about what you want to be, Imagine the nice house you will live in, instead of what you are living in right now, unless you are happy with that. The nice clothes you will be wearing instead of the ones you have on right now. You see if you want to be rich, you should think rich, not poor, act rich, not poor, you have to impress your subconscious mind if you want it to become a reality.

The way you are currently thinking is just what you will get, instead of what you want. It's the same for every other desire, if you want to be thin, THINK THIN NOT FAT. The clothes you will be wearing, not the ones you have on.

It has been said that your thoughts are your life, and that we talk to ourselves constantly, I don't mind in words, but our thoughts rule us. We have already discovered that we get just what we think about, so we had better be very careful what we talk to ourselves about, because that is what we will get. We must be very positive about this and not dwell in the present, but always see yourself in the future, what you will be doing
1,2,5,10 years from now.

How much money will you have, where you will be living, the clothes you will be wearing, the company you will be keeping, and don't ever say you will be keeping company with negative people, or that's what you will become, you would find by associating with negative people all the time, you will not have moved one inch from where you are right now. The world and all it's opportunity will just sail passed you and be gone forever if you do that. Make it a goal today, to meet at least one positive person each day of your life and YOU WILL See the results.

Gaining Self Improvement with Emotions

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 18:40:00 +0000

Not everyone believes this but the emotional and mental aspects of a person, when combined, leads to better self improvement.

Emotions love to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. The society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects more and more.

No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through you.

Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of us concerned about emotional health and self improvement. What is more important; the amount of money you made during your life or the times you laughed out of sheer joy?

People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives.

There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.

For example, when you were a child, if your goldfish dies, you would be heartbroken. Your parents will probably buy you another goldfish but the sorrow is still there.

Things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work angry, tired, and your mind will wander. On the way home from work you will not notice the sun shining and you would not be tempted to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables.

All this because that one negative thought has contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you.

In this moment you will realize finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement.

That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. The best idea is to totally lose yourself in it.

Let us say you have a problem on your mind and it just would not go away. Go bowling. Do not know how? Just give it a shot.

Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.

A safe haven can take many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person or animal. The main thing is allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity.

You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore it and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.

When the bowling game, the song, or the movie ends you will abruptly return to reality. You will probably want to retreat back to the safe place. Do not do it.

The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your life's problems, may it be a small or big. It serves only as an escape route.

You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can be resolved.

This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health. Try to do this often and you are on your way to better self improvement.

Some very simple rules for success

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 16:24:00 +0000

Did you know that the universe will give and in great abundance if you follow a few simple rules. Too many people believe that all they have to do is just ask and then forget it, nothing could be further from the truth. The law of the universe is just that, a law, which must be followed if you are to succeed. The rules are not hard and do not require a huge amount of brain power to grasp, but once mastered the world can be your oyster.

These are the rules as I see them.

1: Do not upset the karma of Mother Nature, it has been well known for many years that there is indeed a universal force out there, that is ever willing to help anyone who asks for its help, BUT don't go insulting it by breaking the every first rule. That rule is, you must not wish for anything that will bring harm to the earth or anything or anyone that resides on it. In other words do not wish harm on your peers or hurt them in any way.

Too many people carry a grudge about something that has happen to them, unless you can let the grudge go you will never succeed in life, you see there is a saying that goes like this, Like attracts like. Positive attracts positive, negative attracts negative. So if you are carrying that type of attitude within you, what will happen……… Yes you got it you will attract just what you are carrying. So if your feelings towards something or someone are negative, then you know what the result will be unless you change it.

2: You have all heard the saying 'A Picture speaks louder than words" Well that saying is so very true and I will tell you why, but first we need to take a look at the two states of mind that each of us have, The conscious and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is what we all use everyday of our lives, every waking minute the conscious mind is working, makes the decisions, the day to day choices that it is faced with. On the other hand the subconscious mind works quietly in the background, sees to it that we keep breathing, our eyes to blink, out hearts to continue to beat, All of this is done without any conscious effect on our parts.

However the subconscious mind does not stop there, for a start it remembers every word you have ever heard or spoken, every feeling you have ever had, be it good or bad. It knows fear, joy, and happiness, love even hate. One of its jobs is to make sure we get what we want, it does this by interrupting our very thoughts and
because we think in pictures, that is what it sees. When you
read a book are you thinking in words, or do you have a miniature movies going through our minds yes we all think in pictures. Yes we do think in pictures.

The subconscious mind unlike the conscious mind does not make judgments, it does not care if the input we are sending it is negative or positive in content, it makes no distinction, and it will operate on what we feed it, without question. That is a good thing if we are positive thinkers, but not so good if we are negative in nature. We have heard the saying, as a man thinks, so is he. Or we are what we think about all day. Napoleon Hill, in his book "think and grow rich" said it this way "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve" For those who have not read it, I recommend it and if you have read it and never got anything out of it, Read it again, but this time take notice of everything you read and you will discover the secret formula within it's pages.

When we think about our goals, our dreams and desires we must see them as actual pictures, we must picture them as actually being the fact, the subconscious does not care, nor does it even check to find out, if what we are thinking is real of just a dream as yet.

PICTURES DO MORE FOR OUR MEMORIES
THAN WORDS COULD EVER DO

3: How much do we want our dreams and desires????

Yes I know we all want to achieve our goals, but what are we prepared to give to attain them. Are we prepared to give everything to succeed? Are we prepared to make it a obsession, a burning desire to live our dreams everyday of our life, even change our circle of friends if need be. That is the level of commitment we all need if we want to see our goals and dreams come to fruition. Don't get me wrong, this is not really that hard to do, its just a matter of commitment.

What do you do when you are interested in a new subject, new project, maybe a new member of the opposite sex comes into your live, do you just let it ride, No you give it all you have to give and more if that's possible, it becomes your one and only thought and interest. Then why not give that level of commitment to your goals and dreams, because that's what the universe expects of you. It's almost like the universe is trying you out, to see if your desire is strong enough to deserve it. But once it gives, it gives in great abundance.

How many times have you heard "I would love to drive a Rolls Royce one day, that Porsche or that BMW" yes I think we have all heard that type of thing from our peers, perhaps even from ourselves, But HOW MANY TIMES DO THOSE PEOPLE GET WHAT THEY WANT. I'll tell you what they do get, they get what they expect, what they think they are worthy of nothing more nothing less. So many of us have such a poor self image of ourselves we are happy to except what we can get, when it does not have to be like that. We simply don't expect any more although we would like to get more. Well guess what, who has to expect more and really know that you will get it, Need I say anymore.

The universe does not expect more than you have to give, but it
does require that you have a top self image and faith that we will get it. If you have those things you will be a success and you will see all your dreams come true. When you write out a list of goals, be very specific about what you want and make it become a real part of you.Or you will never get what you are looking for.

4: You must make your dreams and goals your dominant thought, you must be very careful not to dwell on the negative but always make your thoughts positive, you might say something like this every morning and night, I don't like being the size I am. I hate being like this, I must lose weight soon. Ok you might think those words are positive, but you are still dwelling on the negative. You are still talking about Fat and how you don't like to be like that, instead of being positive by thinking and acting like you are already the weight you want to be, picturing yourself wearing the nice clothes, the way you feel about yourself etc..

If you take the very thing you want in life and make it a dominant thought, tie it all up with a graphic picture in you mind of the way you expect it to be, then you are well on your way to achieving it. You can make it as grand as you like, in fact the greater the better and don't settle for anything less than what you visualise, I repeat don't settle for anything less, you can and will achieve it. The universe is like that it will give without question.

Most people fail to change the way they see themselves, if your
goal is to lose weight, then start changing the way you see yourself, instead of continuing to see yourself as FAT. Start to see yourself as THIN, wearing what you like, the perfect weight you want to be, imagine how other people will see you, the comments they will make. How you are going to feel when you have achieved your target. In other words change how you think and see yourself. You are a very special person, there is no other like you in all the world so if your self image is a little lacking, change it.

Beware of Procrastination.

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 00:53:00 +0000

Before we carry on with this report, a traveling salesman once told me that because of procrastination his front door was his worse enemy. Don't let it take over your life.

Does this sound familiar? You wake up in the morning; have your coffee; read your list of things to do today; then go back to bed. Is this procrastination, or a more serious problem? If it occurs more than once; it is. However, people procrastinate for a variety of reasons such as; fear of failing or succeeding; poor organizational skills; and sometimes, a lack of self-esteem. Let's explore these particular areas and offer a few easy tips in overcoming procrastination.

Fear of Failing or Succeeding

If you fall into this category, there are certain tasks you can perform to understand your resistance. Ask yourself what are you most afraid of; the task, the requirements needed to see the task through to a satisfactory conclusion; what will the outcome be? Or possibly failure? Perhaps it may go even deeper. Maybe you are afraid you will succeed. A lot of times, there is a tendency to sabotage a certain project because in succeeding, you are meeting the high expectation others' have about you and your work. Thus, more pressure is being placed upon you; and therefore, no excuses can suffice in exceeding those expectations.

Fear of rejection can be another reason why you cling to procrastination. This may originate from low-self esteem; or a lingering uncertainty within your own mind. It can also be generated from a past rejection which has resurfaced by the task itself. Do not place so much importance on what others think; affirming confidence in your own abilities is the key to overcoming rejection. You may feel a slight twinge, but will be able to brush it off if you just remember who you are.

Organizational Skills: Create a Small List

Instead of pressuring yourself by including twenty or more things to do on your list, create small lists of five things to do. Managing your life in this way will make it easier for you to complete the tasks; leaving you with a feeling of accomplishment. Do not allow anyone or anything to overpower you; your life; or your achievements.

Lack of Self Esteem and Motivation

Lack of self-esteem prevents you from completing the easiest task. Why? Either because you do not feel you are worthy of the challenge, or because you feel you are not good enough to complete it. Motivation is a good place to begin. Start with an easy task first; then gradually work your way up to full completion. Your confidence will build; you will feel more positive about what you can accomplish, and you will be less likely to avoid the next task at hand.

Lift the Weight off Your Shoulders

Here is an analogy which may help you. Food shopping requires a list, correct? Each time a product is placed in the shopping cart, you cross it off the list. Well, following the same procedure with other tasks in your life will lift the weight off your shoulders, and the burden will disappear. The secret is not to overload your mind with tasks neither you nor anyone else can handle. Take it one step at a time. Remember, no one is testing you; there is no time-clock. There is no pressure.

Anthony Hosking'

Imagination

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 00:09:00 +0000

Do animals set goals?

Animals do not set goals, they have it already built in. It is called instinct for them. There goal in life is to feed themselves, find shelter and procreate the species. They are not aware of what they are doing, it is already been programmed in their genes

What is the one big advantage the human being has over the animals? If you said imagination you are right on the money, yes we have the power of imagination. With out it we would be greater than the animals and the world would be an entirely different place that what we know today. Human beings have this skill, we have the ability to dream, and make our dreams come into being.

Since mankind has been on the earth he has strived for more understanding and vision. Even the humble wheel came from somebody thought process or observation. So it is to this very day, but what does it mean to dream?

I am not talking about the dreams we have during our sleeping hours, but the ones we have during our waking hours. Dreams of becoming something or someone. The dreams of being a success at everything we take on. Let me say at this point there is nothing wrong with these sort of dreams, without them we are dead in the water.

Having a dream in life is something we should all strive have and see come true. However there are a few things we must understand when shooting for a dream. Unfortunately many people miss the point.

The very first thing you need to understand is, your dream is just that, your dream. Never let anyone steal it from you, we have all heard "What makes you think you can do that"? or "I know so and so can do it but not you" Letting these word from other people effect us is downright folly.

To be a success at gaining any dream you like requires a steadfastness that many do not have. To be a success requires a one mindedness, and a passion to see it though to the very end. As problems come along work over them. You know one the famous speakers on Motivation "Dr Norman Vincent Peale" said it like this.

If you don't have a problem, then go out and get one. Beg one Borrow one even steal one of you have to, because without a problem you are going nowhere. Once you overcome that problem find another until you reach you dream.

This is what imagination can do for us, treasure the fact that you have this gift and above all use it.

Anthony Hosking

Time to Make a Change

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 07:04:00 +0000

Did you know that if you keep doing things the way you are now, you will have not moved 1 inch in 20 years? That's right, not 1 inch. You see it comes down to the little known fact that you, no one else, are responsible for the way you are living or will continue to live. The human being it such a creation, that would rather find fault with others, than look at themselves. Anyway it is easier to blame others, especially if the person being blamed is nowhere to be found or is out of ear shot.

Why is this? It is because we are a lazy creature, always looking for the easiest way to achieve everything we want or need. What happens when someone offers one an easy way to a fortune, yes we slip out the credit card all too easy, almost without thinking.

This is the reason for the thousands of scams that are circulating the world at any given time, and yes we are the perpetrators, we keep it going. There will always and I repeat always be a sucker to be found. Mention money, especially free money and it sets off all sorts of thoughts in the individual that you told; they will do almost anything to acquire that money.

This is not a lucky break for the scammers; he/she has already done their home work and knows exactly how the individual is going to react. What has happened to the older days when you worked for a living? History is full of people that worked until they dropped into their graves to provide for their families and themselves. However since life has got a lot easier the human being has got lazier and think he/she is hard done by because they are asked to work a little longer or don't get paid enough.

There is one answer to rid ourselves of this rut we have ourselves in. At the risk of being laughed at, the answer lies within each of us. Back at the very first line I said we would be no further ahead in 20years if we continued to do the same things. There is your answer. It stands to reason; if we want to have life different we must do things differently to bring about that change. However that is not as easy as it sounds, we may have a lifetime of set ways to change, and it all depends on how easy we learn from our mistakes.

The very first thing we must do is change our thinking, yes our thinking will get us nowhere unless we think differently. Did you know that we are what we think; whatever is in our thoughts most of the time is what we will be. If it's positive then keep thinking that way, otherwise you know what to do.

As soon as you start to think differently you will find that things start to happen, the universe is good like that. You will start to see opportunities everywhere you go, they have always been there, its just you notice them a lot more once you change. If you get really interested in say certain type of car, what happens? Yes you see them everywhere and it is just the same when you change. Of course making the change to think and do things differently starts a chain reaction, you are moving once again, this causes the universe to move with you in a very special way. As long as you keep your thinking right on target you will achieve mighty things, you never thought were possible.

Attitudes

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 17:48:00 +0000

This is an all encompassing question, success is many things to many different people it's a bit like asking how long is a piece of string. Many people consider themselves a success just to be able to go do the shopping. There are thousands of people in the world that find it a real hard thing to just do the weeks shopping, for one reason or another.

A great deal more people do not think they are a success unless they have a six figure income and all the trapping to go with it, company car, expense account etc. What it really boils down too is this: Success can be yours, based on what you consider success, if you are a success by having a great relationship, then you are. If you are a success by having a house, boat, car etc, then you are one.

Are we born successful? Yes I believe we are all born with that success formula built in, we don't even think about it, it is just part of us. Well you may say "Where did I go wrong"? Answer? "You did not go wrong", you still have that inbuilt success formula; you have just let other things override it. Let me explain.

When you came into this world you had nothing, only the will to survive. Instinct told you when you needed to be changed or needed your daily food intake, you could not talk as yet, but you soon got your point across. When you were learning to walk, did you try a couple of times and then give up?

No, you kept at it until you could walk which is why most of the world's population walks today. BUT about this time in our lives, we also started to notice other things. What people said, what people thought, what they wore etc, in other words we became aware of other stimuli to our senses.

This is where I believe we learnt to cover up our success formula. We did it bit by bit until we could no longer see it. Why did this happen? Because we started to listen to our peers. How many times have you heard "What makes you think you can do that"? Familiar eh? Yes our peers have downtrodden our success formula, pushed it way back until we don't even know it exists.

The world is full of the so called do-gooders, always watching out for our welfare, instead of getting on with there own. Why do they do this? I believe that it is because they have very little faith in themselves to be able to do the very same tasks. They would sooner we did not try, in case we did it better than them. The human being is a proud species and does not take too kindly to others being better than him/her. Competitiveness is part of our being.

How many times have you seen an idea, it many have been yours or a friends, which sounds great to you, but just watch someone come along and pour cold water on it, The idea goes from white hot to stone cold in a very short time. What happens to it? It never sees the light of day again and that's very sad, but it is the way we have been conditioned since we were toddlers.

The world is full of those that continually advise us on everything. Finances, career choices, the money you can or can not make, and tell you why this will not work or that has no show of seeing light of day. These people I call the dream stealers because that just what they do, steal our dreams. Where are these dream stealers when you need help to pay your bills etc? You got it, they are nowhere to be found. Sure, they may mean well, but we can do without them.

From a very early age our senses have been bombarded with negativity. What we must eat, wear, the way we are expected to act. The fashion industry tells us how we should look, nice slim bodies, the peak of fitness, the nice clothes we should be wearing, and on the other hand the food industry tempts out taste buds with all sort of new tastes. What happens? We put on weight, and then we have to exercise to get it off again, so as to look like the super models.

Our whole existence revolves around what we should look like, what others should look like to us (the so called perfect person) instead of just accepting the way we are. We start to look different from what the media say we should look like, we start to doubt ourselves, we feel inferior, our self esteem goes down the toilet, and with it goes our built in success formula. Any sort of cold water on our ideas helps to flush our self esteem even further out to sea.

Ok. I can hear you saying "I see what you mean, but what I can do about it, how do I change this"? You have just said the magic word "CHANGE" that's how you turn your life around, you change. Now I understand this is not an easy thing to do, and it won't happen overnight since it has taken a lifetime to establish itself within, but nevertheless it can be done. We are blessed with the fact that we all have been a success in someway in our lives, so the concept of success is not really foreign to us. The very first thing we have to do is recall when this was. Was it at School when you won the sports event you were good at, the high marks you got for a essay? Perhaps it was when you started work, or even something before you even went to school.

Whatever is was we need to identify it no matter how small it seems now; at the time it was big enough to make you feel proud.

Remember how it felt to be a winner. Did your friends praise you for a great job well done? How did that make you feel? Did you feel accepted by your friends? What did you parents think of you, how did it make them feel? Yes we all have at least one of those experiences to fall back on. Relive it in your mind, really live it again, close your eyes and let your mind go back to when it happened. If you can do it for that time. You will very soon see other things you were a success at, and you will quickly believe that you can be a success.

The very next thing to do is get an idea, maybe to buy an item you have longed for, be it a new dress, car, house, bike etc, BUT this time tell nobody about it. Remember what happens when you tell your peers? You will always find at least one that will tell you why you can't do it; they will pour cold water on you every time. Keep your little dream to yourself, whatever the cost, don't let ANYONE steal it. What do you think will happen when they find out you have bought this coat or that car etc. Yes you got it right, they will not put you down anymore. In fact they will most likely say how cool it is, "I want one of those as well, and where did you get it?" "What a great idea", "you look great", and so forth.

Imagine how this will make you feel. That's all there is to it. It is my belief that our peers are always first with the good advice. It's always free and often that's about the value of it as well. Its free, it cost you nothing to listen-or does it? Think about it. Will those very same people will be also the first to congratulate you when you just go ahead and do it? No. They will just accept the fact that you have it. Don't let anybody steal your dreams.

What Is Success

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 22:36:00 +0000

The Blog Begins!

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 08:35:00 +0000

I am pleased to announce the Success Secrets Blog now has a new expert author. It gives me great pleasure to welcome Anthony Hosking to the chair. Anthony has been writing articles on success and motivation for a good numbers of years now; and gains 'great solace from knowing that someone somewhere is getting comfort from my words'.

I am really looking forward to reading his Blog over the coming months!