I can't count the many times I've heard someone complaining that they're a failure. In fact, I think I hear my own voice echoing similar remarks during times of discouragement in my youth.
The truth is that God didn't create failures. He created us after His own image. Therefore, we're extremely loving, creative and intelligent beings who can choose to see value in our lives if we desire because we have also been given a free will. This means that we have a choice to believe whatever reality about ourselves we want.
Therefore we can also choose how we think about success. Instead of making it a gauge for how much money we earn or what type of job we have, we need to use it as a measure for the joy and fulfillment we have from putting family first.
We'll become rich from the inside out with the result of a higher confidence level and self-esteem. This is where wealth begins and our humanity grows to ultimately prosper us in areas of financial and career growth. When we label ourselves as failures, we deny the value of our lives and families.
We're creating a legacy for our children to be discontented and unappreciative of the sheer joy of being alive. Putting family first gives ultimate value to our lives and life in general. You'll find that making this commitment will give your life more quality and depth. On trips to visit the elderly in rest homes I saw many lonely people whose children never visited.
I can't say for sure, but had they put their families first, they might have had the wealth of a child, relative or friend by their side. I've heard many wealthy people express sorrow over the fact that they had put earning money and job status before their families, having believed for most of their lives that the wealth of money had been enough to sustain their relationships. Now alone and perhaps "hated" by their families, they reach the end of their lives, "humanity poor" with no understanding of how to undo the damage.
After all, they had been experts at earning money not how to love their families. Insure today that you let your family know they come first. When you make a commitment to do something with or for them, don't let work make you break your promise. Keeping your word to your family should be as important as keeping it to your employer or clients. Take special time to organize outings together and vacations that will help you bond as well as a time to relax from work and think about enjoying your life.
Living only for work will eventually make you a lonely person who is estranged from the true meaning of life and true giving – of yourself, not money! I've always promoted a well rounded balance in life. I'm also the first to admit it's easy, especially when you love your work to put it first, but at the end of the day all that really counts is having a family that will be there for you when work doesn't go quite right, or if you need emotional support to get through difficult times.
Even more important is the support you give to them. Work can't fill you with the warmth that being needed by those you love can give. If or when you start to complain that you're a failure, think about the faces of those you love and you'll see a vision of true success.
Margaret Lukasik Christian Author, Teacher and Life Coach
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