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This week I will be doing a talk in Carlsbad, CA. on this very Subject for more info go to
http://holisticlivingexpo.com/carlsbad8-3-08.php#performancesandlectures or http://holisticlivingexpo.com/carlsbad8-3-08.php#allex
I occasionally do these fairs when they are in Southern CA. as this promoter does most of his shows in the San Francisco Area.
This is something I enjoy doing as well as the readings and counseling work I do there also.
Starting over is something I am quiet the expert on for I have done it for me sometimes. By choice, chance and have to as the title indicated.
There comes a time in most peoples life's when they have to start over. It may be because of losing a job, a friend, a death of someone special or maybe it is a divorce which in some cases appear to be worse for the person is alive, yet they are dead to you.
What ever the reason the first step is making the choice and decision to do it. As with anything it begins in the mental stage then progresses to the actual.
If we are smart and we aren't too big a wreck we do a lot of thinking about what do we want out this thing called life. Then we begin to research it what, when, where, how do we do it.
When our research is done then we move to the next stage which is beginning each day to do something to bring the change about. I fought over this next step but eventually events proved me wrong.
All of my life I was a runner when things blew up as they always did the first thing I did was look for another location to run to. I did this until I was in my fifties and decided no matter what happened I was staying close to my children, which I have done for almost twenty years now.
I wound up having to bring them to me as their mom abandoned them almost 15 years ago knowing I would be right there to get them which I was.
Change is not, simple or easy for to make it really work you have to be smart about it and not just fly off and do it. Although, I have to admit if you say help me Spirit I have to do this for my own sanity and mental health then in that case JUST DO IT.
Everything starts with a decision. As much as I hate to say it sometimes we just have to remove ourselves from the situation before Spirit does it for us.
One thing to always remember is that no matter what is happening you are always in the right place at the right time with the right people, doing the right thing. However there is nothing that says you have to stay there and take it.
No one is meant to be a human punching bag for anyone else. There are times we have to experience it so we can save someone else from experiencing it.
No, matter what or where you are never be afraid to start over and admit to yourself a mistake was made and choose again and again and again, if necessary, until you get it right.
You never have to stay where you are. Do whatever you have to do to leave. Even if it is leaving in the middle of the night or while they or gone or however it has to be done. DO IT.
Now let me clarify something I am don't advocating anyway just picking up and running away because their spouse or companion is a grouch or hard to live with. Sometimes that is what we are there for. To make things easier, to smooth things over for them.
What I am advocating is there is no sense is physical violence to any one. We can work through any situation if we choose. Just because someone else is younger, wealthier or better looking doesn't mean we kick our partner to the curb and run to the next stud or person.
It means that if we aren't being satisfied in the situation we are in, so we are to find how make the situation satisfying, for it will not be long before you are looking for someone else to scratch that itch for you. For you are that itch, There is something within you that is begging you to develop within you. A talent or skill that is begging to be let out and you are attempting to hide it with physical activity.
Be true to thy own self means more than just scratching that itch. It may mean how can I help myself by helping my partner? That always makes feel better.
Itches can always be scratched. It doesn't mean running way to get them scratched. Besides who better to scratch that itch than the one that has been there for you so long.
But in the long run. Follow Spirit. Allow Spirit to guide you and listen to what Spirit says not what you want Spirit to say. Love, Peace and Light, |
