Self Growth

How to Have Fantastic Motivation and Self Confidence to Drive You Through the Day

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 22:05:00 +0000

Everybody has different reasons for wanting or needing to get out of bed in the morning and the motivations and self confidence that drive us from dawn to dusk can be many and varied.

Maybe our little cherubs need to be taken to school, with all the aggravations that come with getting them up, making their breakfast and struggling to master their tantrums. Yes I've been there and done that; it's enough to knock a dent in the toughest of people's self confidence.

What about those folk who are retired? For them there are so many pleasurable reasons to pull back the bed covers and spring into life, full of self confidence. Yes even for these gently folk there are still those mundane chores to be done, but they are challenged fervently knowing that they can play for the rest of the day.

Some, they may have a business to control and their zest for life comes with their self confidence to make their business grow and become a success. Motivation comes easily and their self confidence races them forward.

For the great majority waking up to the alarm clock is about getting to work on time in order to earn an honest bob. Motivation and self confidence is seriously lacking as all their hard work is making money for the man at the top. The mindset is to do only what is necessary to justify their pay and then get off home. For these people life lacks abundance and fulfilment.

There is a way to climb out of this rut for which you need a deep desire to want a better life. This lust for better must be followed with a dream plus self confidence that you will achieve better. Desperation to sack your boss may well be setting in but remember, moulding something better for yourself doesn't happen overnight; unless you win the Euro Lottery. If you are satisfied with the type of work you do it may be for you the best option to stay within that industry. You already have the skills set up to achieve success and re-training is not so necessary, although if you are setting up your own business in that field then there will be some new skills to be developed. However, if you are determined that you want a change in direction, success is still definitely achievable provided that you have the self confidence, motivation and belief to get there. Of course it will take a little longer to live your dream.

Both being in a business or employ that you truly enjoy, you will give one hundred percent to your work. Your drive, self confidence and determination to make it succeed will push you on and provide that extra energy when the going gets rough.

Before you can cross over to the business of your choice you will most likely have to continue in your present job. With in this role you should still apply yourself wholeheartedly and with as much self confidence as possible.

Why? I can hear you ask.

By doing the best you can at anything you undertake in life helps develop the self confidence and success mentality. The task may not be arduous and difficult but by putting your best efforts forward you will create the desire to "do things right". There is always a great sense of satisfaction when jobs iare completed well, and let's face it who likes doing things badly.

There is word of caution here. In order to do your best at any job, task or role doesn't mean you have to attempt to do a hundred and one things. The best idea is to concern yourself with the task at hand; to give that task your best shot. By taking on too many things will cause you to be stressing about the other tasks, worrying where the time will come from to finish them. Your mind should be on one thing at a time. This way, with self confidence, you can be at your most efficient and therefore be more productive at everything you do.

If, through no fault of your own you do have many jobs to be completed, then you have to discover your priorities and how to time manage. Firstly decide which jobs are the most important to tackle and have the self confidence in your abilities to see the job to the end. Then make a decision about how long you will take to do each task and, if the job cannot be completed in the designated time, can it be finished at another date.

By being as efficient as you possibly can be, you can be great at everything you put your mind to. So much satisfaction can be had and your self esteem and self confidence will rocket. You will achieve personal growth and you will have the motivation to get out of bed in the morning.

Terry Norrington

Look, Learn and Listen With Self Confidence

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 22:40:00 +0000

Practice makes perfect and does wonders for the self confidence. There is no doubt that the more often you practice something, the more accomplished you become and your self confidence grows in your ability to perform that task. You can become an expert in your field and you feel extremely comfortable performing the role or task. It is too easy then to sit there and carry on with the same tasks not making the effort to move on.

Every thing we do in life, at some point we would have had to learn the skill and prior to that make the decision to learn the skill. For many people as they get older they believe that their learning and education is over. They start living in their comfort zone.

But what happens to these people?

Probably they stagnate. They settle for what they have got and their self confidence disappears; their self confidence to follow any truly great dreams that they have or once had.

Throughout life we should be learning. The wonderful University of Life provides us with so much education and with the best will in the world; you aren't going to learn even a fraction of the lessons it has to offer. But be assured if you take the opportunity to learn and discover more and more of the tremendous opportunities that the world has to offer you will achieve far more than you really believed that you could. Having the self confidence and faith in yourself that you can be taught and the open mindedness to take in new and perhaps unconventional ideas will broaden your horizons and make the journey to success so much more exciting.

There is a lot to be said in duplicating what the rich and successful people already do. But sometimes the thrill can be in challenging convention, finding new and better ways to accomplish things. The innovators of this world do not stick to the traditional way of thinking and doing things. They explore, challenge and invent so that the world can be a better and easier place to live and work. They observe life, learn from what life is teaching them and with self confidence use that education for the good of everybody.

Lessons are learned from the day you are born. From learning to walk and talk, following through the education system and then perhaps learning a trade or a vocation. But life continues to teach us until we are no more. Life wants us to expand and enjoy the true abundance that is there for us to experience and by offering us a continuous education we can open our eyes to greater and greater opportunities.

Don't stagnate. Exercise the mind and extend your knowledge. Have the self confidence in yourself to learn and discover better and greater experiences.

Terry Norrington

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How to Overcome the Fear Factor and Develop a Fantastic Self Confidence Factor

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 22:40:00 +0000

One of the greatest obstacles in the way of self confidence and a successful life style is fear. Take the letters from the word fear and you have the acronym False Evidence Appearing Real. We fear things because we do not have the self confidence to believe we can achieve. Somewhere in our lives, something has gone wrong and further evidence supports the notion that we cannot possibly achieve a certain goal.

Fear is a terrific blinker, obscuring our view to the truth and the light that can shine on the path to success. Fear can fill our lives with darkness.

What type of things do we fear?

We fear rejection. We fear that somebody may actually say no.

We fear looking foolish. We fear taking on a project in case we fail and all our peers say "we knew that wouldn't work".

We fear the unknown. We won't take risks or step outside our comfort zone for fear of failing and where finance is involved, we fear the consequences of losing vast sums of money and the subsequence pressure that puts us under.

Let's look at each issue separately.

The fear of rejection.

Rejection is a state of mind. In the wrong state of mind it can severely hamper self confidence and self esteem. But it is a state of mind that can be altered and is necessary if you seriously want to improve your self confidence and achieve success. If you are after that perfect relationship or achieving your sales target, you have to accept that what you have to offer is not right for everybody. You will probably have a great many people saying "no thank you" (you're obviously approaching all the polite people), but what you have to offer is right for a few out there. Keep persevering and eventually somebody will say "yes". Consider this a sorting out process, finding the people who say "no" and the people who say "yes". You are only interested in those that say "yes" and the sooner you sift through the "no" category the sooner you will find the interested ones. Don't think that you have to turn a "no" into a "yes", just concentrate on the "yes" people. By developing the mindset that the answer "no" is actually a positive thing will do wonders for your self confidence.

Do you understand this, "yes" or "No" ?

We fear looking foolish

By worrying about how other people see us is putting other peoples thought before are own. This shows a lack of self confidence and belief in ourselves, thinking that other people know better. Do successful people concern themselves with how they may appear if they fail? Of course not; their overriding priority is to see a project through to a successful conclusion and stop at nothing until they succeed.

Just think how we will look when we do achieve success. And even then there will probably be somebody who will knock our achievements. We will never satisfy all our peers so why even bother trying?

We must have the self confidence to go for what we want, because despite worrying about how other people may view us they are probably not that concerned about how we see them.

A fear of the unknown.

So many times we have probably shied away from taking on a project or a task that we don't know exactly how to complete. We may lack the self confidence to see it through to the end. It may be that we are reluctant to invest money into the project for fear of losing that money and then not having enough for a rainy day. It seems that at this point we are concentrating on the lack of something rather than the abundance that we can have when things go right. We must concern ourselves with what we want rather than what we don't want and then achievement will surely follow.

We need the self confidence in ourselves to believe that our project will be successful. Yes, it is important to try and think of the obstacles that may occur along the way, but it is impossible to visualise them all; something will crop up along the way that we didn't account for. We then need the belief that we will overcome it and determinedly progress towards our goal.

Stepping into the dark provides so many people with fear. One of the most inspirational songs to me is Gerry and the Pacemakers "You'll Never Walk Alone".

Not because I am an ardent football fan and this is the "football anthem". The words just have so much meaning. As I don't want to break any copyright laws I won't quote the lyrics verbatim, but the fact that we shouldn't be afraid of the dark, a promise of golden skies at the end of a storm and to walk on with hope in your heart gives me a tremendous lift whenever I hear these words. I strongly recommend listening to this song again and really hear the words.

Self confidence can really be destroyed by fear if we let it. A concentration on our dreams and what we truly desire will overcome our fears. Have that self confidence and belief that we can walk through the dark and eventual experience the golden skies.

Terry Norrington

How to Develop Great Leadership Qualities and Your Self Confidence

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 22:35:00 +0000

In the last article we looked at various attributes for leadership and self confidence. These were the first five and now we look at the next five.

Particular in business, leadership is a necessary skill on the path to success and self confidence.

Set the example.

The best way to be a leader is to show how it can be done. To prove that you have the skills necessary will really gain the respect of your team. Yes, if the team is particularly large you will most likely not have the skills required in every department, but you should certainly have enough wherewithal to demonstrate to the people immediately beneath you. There has been recently a programme on British television where the owners or Managing Directors of organisations go back to the shop floor to tackle and see for themselves the tasks undertaken by the productive staff. This exercise usually demonstrates their lack of abilities in this field, but being involved and showing a willingness to understand the needs of there workers nearly always gains them respect. It also helps build their self confidence in order to run the business more effectively.

Display commitment to integrity.

By doing the right thing and having pride in your team, confidence in you as a leader will be built in your team at every level. Upon you, all the hopes and desires of your team will be on your shoulders. As a leader you must show a hundred percent commitment to honesty and truthfulness. By being honest and true you know that everything you do and every decision you make is entirely for the right reasons and does wonders for your self confidence in the process. A leader must seriously consider making this his/hers number one priority.

Excellence in everything.

There is no place for inferior workmanship or performance from a leader. Your attitude to appearance and courtesy plus a total dedication to excellence will mark you down for success or failure. Your team will only look up to you if this attitude is at a level above theirs. If you can only mark yourself as an 8 in this area, only the people whose attitude is 7 or below will look up to you as a leader. By striving for a perfect 10 not only gives you the respect of all your team members it creates the desire to do everything to the best of your ability and enhances your self confidence in the process.

A commitment to personal growth.

Self confidence is a part of personal growth. But so is the need to understand your business and constantly keep on top of new developments within your industry. The University of Life teaches us something new every day and if we are not prepared to learn the lessons, how can you expect your team to. The business, like your knowledge, will fail to grow. It is so necessary to grow personally as nobody likes to be around a leader who is just prepared to stand still. That would be a sure fire way of loosing some valuable members of your crew. Be positive and be prepared to learn and you, along with your self confidence will grow enormously.

Develop the highest level of persistence and determination.

At times you may very well feel like giving up. You may wonder if you are on the right road to success. But this is where your self confidence, your vision and your dreams that should be greater than your team's, come to the fore. It happens so very few times that success comes overnight. A baby doesn't walk straight after it is born. As a parent you give that child as long as it takes to learn, and succeed it will, eventually. You must set the goals and the standards, but if these aren't met, re-align them and start again; keep on trying until the finishing line is in sight.

For some, the qualities of self confidence and leadership come naturally. To others they have to be developed and enhanced. But you can have the self confidence of a leader and achieve the success you crave by looking at and practicing these attributes as mentioned over these last two articles.

Terry Norrington

How You Can Be A Great Leader With Outstanding Self Confidence

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 22:39:00 +0000

Self confidence is required in so many fields of life but another quality that is a must in business is leadership. If you run your own business or head a department, even manage a large organisation, the people beneath you in the chain of command will look to you for leadership, inspiration and self confidence.

So what must we have to be a great, inspiring leader?

An extraordinary vision is definitely required. A leader has big dreams and motivates his team with those dreams. His communication skills convey emotion, continuously accentuating the positives to drive forward the business or project. Leaders are forward thinkers, seeing what doesn't exist at present and then visualising it as existing with the sole aim of making it a reality. Their dreams will always be larger than those of the rest of the team; they have to be to create that magical inspiration and self confidence of the team.

A leader will have an attitude far more positive than those that he leads. They continuously have powerful thoughts and his manner is always upbeat with self confidence. It is so necessary to always show positivism and self confidence. Both positive and negative thoughts can be contagious yet negativity can spread so much more easily than positive ness. It is therefore so essential to remain positive, never allowing yourself to make criticism about the company, management or product. An organisation can so easily be weakened or destroyed by one critical remark (remember the Gerald Ratner effect).

How approachable are you for your team if you are always right, never ready to admit mistakes. Nobody is ever likely to make suggestions if they think that they are not going to make a difference. And when things go wrong, where should the buck stop? With the leader of course; the leader is responsible for the success of the organisation or project. A great leader will see the harm that can be caused by shifting blame onto others and will instead place him/herself in the firing line for criticism. Learning from your mistakes builds self confidence plus admitting them earns the respect of those around you.

A leader has to be a decision maker. Lacking decisiveness and self confidence can be so frustrating for a team. They need to depend on those that can make a decision so they in turn can have a direction to follow. A manager is always concerned about doing things correctly whilst a leader is more concerned about doing the correct thing. It is impossible to always make the right choices but the important thing is that you are making them and making them for the right reasons. As long as lessons are learned, experience combined with self confidence will determine that more and more correct decisions are made in the future.

Those that lead will always put those that they lead first. By putting others before your own interest, will gain the trust and confidence of the team. By looking out for their best interests, your crew will work harder knowing that you want them to succeed. This in turn will build your self confidence as a great leader.

Whilst it is said that many great leaders are born, many more can develop the self confidence and skills for leadership. If you have the strong desire to succeed and you need a highly motivated body of men and women behind you, you can and must create those leadership qualities. Self confidence is an extremely important attribute required for success, but also is leadership, the power and ability to lead and inspire others to greatness.

Terry Norrington

Don't Wake Up Grumpy

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 21:56:00 +0000

Despite all the self confidence and belief you may have there are still some times when you wake up in the morning feeling low, negative and in need of being picked up. It is at times like these when you need to apply a little effort in getting back on the straight and narrow, the path of self confidence.

Having a prepared script, a vision statement, is a great way to persuade the mind back into positive thinking. A statement which emphasises all your desires, your dreams of how you want you life to be, the results you want to experience will pick you up and create that all important self motivation. By believing you are experiencing these desires now and that you are living this dream life now, your mind will very soon narrow the gap between your current experiences and your expected experiences.

Of course, so as not to wake up grumpy (leave him/her alone and get out of bed quietly), it is imperative to go to bed on a positive note, full of self confidence. Those negative thoughts, thoughts of ongoing problematic issues just sink into the subconscious mind causing restless nights with occasional bad dreams and even nightmares. It is little wonder that the following morning energy levels are low and the problems still exist, and on first awakening can seem worse. Self confidence needs to be rebuilt with that little bit of concerted mental effort to visualise your perfect world and believe that you are living in it.

When retiring for the night it helps to practice relaxation techniques to get both the mind and body into a state of ease. Think about all your successes throughout the day. Believe me you will find there are many if you dwell on it long enough. Although your day might have had more strife in it than you would have liked, thinking the positive, all that you have succeeded with will soon banish the troubles away. Thinking of your successes at the end of a day will do wonders for the self confidence.

For the Christians amongst us, reading extracts from the bible is a fantastic way to unwind before falling asleep. The bible creates such inspiration to dwell upon during those sleeping hours.

Sometimes things happen that automatically give us a lift. Here is one little moment that happened to me the other day that left me smiling all day long.

My four year old son Charlie was in our bed next to my wife Tonya whilst I was in the bathroom getting washed and shaved. He's quite keen for Tonya and I to give him a baby brother or sister and I could here him ask that awkward question that most parents dread,

"How does the baby get into Mummy's tummy?"

Tonya replied "Well, a seed grows in Mummy's tummy"

"And how does the seed get there in the first place?" was the inevitable next question.

"Ask your father" was the inevitable reply.

The bathroom door bursts open. "Daddy, how does the seed get into Mummy's tummy?" Charlie asks.

"I plant it there" I answer hoping that would be sufficient. At first it seems to be, but Tonya being in one of mischievous moods blurts out,

"Ask him how he plants it there?"

Charlie of course now looks at me and repeats the question.

"I use a special instrument" I reply trying hard to think on my feet.

Charlie trots off to his room and a minute later he returns. In one hand he has a plastic toy guitar and the other a tambourine.

"Do you mean these?" he asks in all innocence.

Now I'm feeling mischievous and say,

"If I hit the right notes I can make Mummy sing"

At that point Charlie starts singing

"We will, we will rock you"

Enough said I believe.

Terry Norrington

Get Great Self Motivation and Tremendous Self Confidence Here, Now

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 22:32:00 +0000

Along with self confidence, another attribute that is required for success is motivation. Not motivation as a kick up the backside provided by others, but self motivation; the ability to keep yourself going when the going gets tough. Crawling through broken bottles and razor blades to get what you want.

So where does this self confidence and self motivation come from?

You may have possibly heard the phrase "the body follows the mind". Bluntly put, if you want your actions to be great you first have to train the mind to be great.

How many people are truly self motivated?

Ninety nine percent of people struggle to be self motivated and then not have the self confidence to follow their dreams. Going to personal development seminars and training courses can really get us fired up, full of energy to conquer the world. But how many of you find that two days later you feel flat again and all that motivation has worn off.

What is self motivation?

Self motivation exists when there is contradiction between your current results and your expected results. Your expected results are your vision. Time and time again people do not have a clear vision and self confidence suffers because of this. The school's national curriculum doesn't teach children how to be millionaires. You and I are not trained to have time freedom or financial freedom. For most people their vision is to see themselves through from one payday to the next. Great results come from changing that vision which will enhance self confidence and belief.

How do we change that vision?

The subconscious mind believes your current vision. If your current vision is one of struggling from payday to payday that is what your subconscious mind provides for. The subconscious mind is far more powerful than the conscious mind but it is unable to distinguish between facts and lies. True vision comes from what the subconscious mind hears the most often.

To improve this current state of affairs a vision statement needs to be created. Once this has been produced it should be read at least on a daily basis, if not more.

Firstly think of where you want your life to be and the results you want to experience.
Write a statement. Your words should be inspirational and encompass your core values. Be specific and allow your ideas to be big, as high as you can possibly imagine achieving.
Write in the first party. Do not write my life will be… write my life is...
Read aloud to train the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind will believe these positive statements and very soon self motivation and self confidence will kick in.

The subconscious mind will believe a vision statement if repeated on a regular basis and will then overcome all hurdles in order to make the vision statement come true. Self motivation is now created because of the distinct contrast between vision and your current results.

This is likely to be the most powerful transition you are ever likely to make on your incredible journey towards success. It will substantially improve self confidence, change your future and your results more than you can possibly imagine.

Cheers for now.

Terry Norrington

Relaxation, Self Confidence; Problem Solved

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 20:09:00 +0000

When I was first invited to write articles for www.whitedovebooks.co.uk I committed myself to writing at least three times a week with my articles consisting of between 500 and 1500 words. At the time I wondered where the inspiration would come from. Although I felt I had a good grasp on the subject of self confidence and personal development, having studied and read for many years, I still wondered how much knowledge I could impart before I had covered everything.

I made that commitment trusting that come the time of writing I would have the self confidence in my ability to be creative. To date creativeness has not let me down. Sometimes I don't know exactly what I am going to write about yet I believe that come the moment the words will begin to flow. And so many times now I find that once I get started I have to limit all that then comes to mind. Somewhere from the recesses of my subconscious mind the words, ideas and creativity come flowing out.

This happens because I don't worry about where the ideas will come from. Not clouding the mind with problems allows the ideas to come flowing easily. It is quite surprising how problems and worries hamper the creative juices. At times it literally seems like there is a cloud or fog obscuring the view; a view of the answer to all my problems, and because of this lack of vision frustration sets in.

Frustration is a very negative emotion and this just makes the situation worse.

It can be extremely hard to let go of problems. When despair sets in all you want is an answer; an answer to solve your problems and relieve your mind of the despair and get you back to the point of relief and happiness. This is where it is so important to learn to let go. Think about the relief and happiness first. Concentrate on that relief and happiness and think of as many occasions as possible when you have experienced such emotions. If you practice this a few times you will soon see that the emotions you want to obtain soon come easily to you and suddenly your vision is a lot clearer and answers to your problems start to come flooding out.

To see your dream, feel it, visualise it as reality is half the battle. Once this becomes your normal pattern of thought the positive emotions themselves makes you feel good. Consequently that feel good factor creates the pathway for creativity to flourish.

Being relaxed is a perfect feel good emotion that helps you get in touch with solutions rather than problems. When under pressure, the ability to remain calm and relaxed is by far the best mood to get you through the challenges you face. People who thrive under pressure have that enviable ability to focus on solutions without getting flustered.

Positive thoughts and emotions are the best mindsets to achieve success. It hardly seems right that you can achieve success and enjoy it at the same time, but this is the way nature intends for us all to receive abundance.

There, I've managed to draft another article with the ideas coming forth just when I needed it.

Terry Norrington

Develop Positive Mental Attitude and Build Great Self Confidence

noreply@blogger.com (The White Dove Partnership) — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 20:45:00 +0000

Life should be about enjoyment, health and abundance. With self confidence, energy should flow through our bodies, aching to succeed and fulfil our potential. We all have the potential to succeed and with self confidence anybody can.

Be Yourself

To be in touch with the abundance that nature can provide we have to be at ease with ourselves. We need to have self confidence in our abilities to succeed and know we are the best person we can possibly be. Trying to constantly impress others doesn't help us to be ourselves. Other people should see the person we really are and the abilities and potential we have to offer. Having the self confidence in ourselves will shine through and ultimately we will be appreciated for that.

Do Your Best

In order to succeed we need to concentrate on doing our best; not just in the area of our choice in which we want to succeed, but in everything we do. Cultivating the attitude that we want to do everything successfully is a positive mentality that will help bring success in our chosen field. Allowing negative thoughts to creep in any area of our lives shows that we haven't become that totally positive person that we want to be. Develop the self confidence in all aspects of our lives and we can fulfil our potentials, which are greater than you can probably imagine.

Avoid Doing Too Much

Although it is necessary to do everything well, it should be stated here the need to avoid attempting to do too much. By cramming in too many tasks in any given time frame, will mean that each task will not get the full attention it deserves. The likelihood of then not performing the task to the best of our abilities will create frustration; a negative emotion that does nothing to put us at ease with ourselves and allow us to be in touch with success.

Competition

Frustration is a negative emotion and so can competition be. Throughout life we are taught to be competitive. "We should be competitive in our business activities and sport". Trying to be competitive in life, trying to fight to get the better of others does not create the mind set to be at ease with ourselves. By concentrating on how to beat the competition means that we are not focussed on going forward. What activities the competition chooses to perform, we have no control over. Instead of devoting our thoughts and energies to the competition, we need to focus on our own activities, something we do have control over.

Sport, particularly at the highest level is very competitive, and competition really is unavoidable. But even amongst the top athletes, the need to concentrate on their own activity is a necessity, leaving their competitors to look after themselves.

Control the Controllable

There is so much within our environment that can possibly affect us but we have no control over. These things are not worth spending our thoughts and energies on. Identifying the things we can control and do something about is where our successes lie. By developing the wisdom to know the difference and the self confidence to succeed with the activities we can control will place us in the best possible position to achieve our dreams.

By understanding what constitutes positive and negative emotions will help in searching for the good feelings needed for success. Go forward with self confidence. Knowing that feeling good, alive and energetic is a great way to receiving abundance.

Cheers for now

Terry Norrington