Apologies for the lack of blogs over the last week but my daytime business took me away from home leaving me in a position of not having access to the internet.

When I look back on this week there would have been many times in the past when I would have considered it to be a very trying and testing time; seriously denting my self confidence and faith in god.

 

Working alongside a colleague on a project, the work didn't go according to plan and by the end of the week our client was losing confidence in my work colleague and our company. It was a shame as most of the work had gone well and the basic principle of the project seemed to work, but because of one mistake the pressure was on to resolve the problem and as I write a solution is still sort. To cap it all, another job I was working at on Saturday was delayed by a few hours because the mains water to the site was turned off unexpectedly and my journey home was severely hampered with the closure of the M25 motorway. Fortunately I have intimate knowledge of the country lanes around that neck of the woods and was able to negotiate my way back home quicker than most.

 

As I mentioned earlier, in the past I would have gotten desperately frustrated and my self confidence would have suffered accordingly. However, due to my study of self confidence, positive thinking and a great faith in god, I was much more able to stay focussed and concentrate on finding solutions.

 

It helps to realise that firstly; I had done all that I could to make the project go well. Sometimes it has to be appreciated that there are some things totally out of my control. It is impossible to allow for the actions of others and I have to understand the difference between the things that I can do something about and those that I can't. That said, I still tried hard in conjuncture with all parties to try and find a resolution and I have no doubt that this project will come to a satisfactory conclusion this coming week.

 

It really does help to look on the bright side in order to keep focussed. I have found it so easy in the past to be dragged under by the negativity of a bad situation. It is surprising how judgements can be so clouded, making it impossible to see a fruitful outcome to such positions. Now, I can recognise when negative thoughts can possibly creep in and divert my thinking into a more positive frame thus increasing my self confidence to handle the most awkward of situations. This appreciation doesn't happen over night. Through my studies, I have reviewed myself and my way of thinking and have adopted and practiced a great many of the techniques that I have read about.

 

Another thing that has kept me positive this past week is my constant reading of self help material. By reading a little each day, it keeps me inspired. Although the perspective remains the same; ie. it's about thinking positively and visualising positive outcomes, there are so many different techniques to help each individual produce a more positive frame of mind and increase self confidence. The particular book I have been reading this week certainly inspires me and there are some techniques in there that I have already started to adopt.

 

My brother has been in the extremely unfortunate position recently of being without a job. It has gotten him down at times but I have constantly reassured him that it will turn out alright and something will turn up sooner or later. Gratefully it appears my faith has paid off. Tomorrow he starts a new job, albeit temporary but it could very easily become permanent. This may be a sign of the current times with the financial hardships being suffered by a lot of people, but I have been experimenting somewhat this week. I have tried to turn my attention away from listening to news broadcasts and reading the papers. All news seems to be doom and gloom and can be quite soul destroying if I am not careful. Granted I believe that I must understand a little about the current affairs in order to conduct my own affairs accordingly. However, I have steared away from having negative features constantly rammed down my throat and I do feel the better for it, with my self confidence still very much intact.

 

Hopefully this has given everybody a brief insight into my week and also given a few ideas about how to keep your self confidence going when the going gets tough.

 

Terry Norrington

 

www.getselfconfident.com