So why settle for "pretty good" when it can be awesomely ecstatic?!

Because sex is such a hot topic and because a wrong understanding of our
sexuality can have a terrible influence on our relationships, let's toss a
rock into the undergrowth and see what comes out.

Sexual intimacy is at its best, its most delightful, its most fulfilling and
its happiest when it is Monogamous, Heterosexual and when it is in the
context of Covenant.

If you want your relationships to grow into the best they can be, a blessing
to yourself and others, and with God rejoicing over you, take care to make
love well - with one person, someone of the opposite sex, and with someone
you are fully, unconditionally committed to.

That doesn't mean that sex is nasty outside of these parameters, (as Woody
Allen comments!) but when any of these boundaries are not in place, sex
doesn't even come remotely close to the beautiful experience it is when
these three things are taken care of.

Hey, why settle for less?

In my previous blog we talked about how wonderfully we have been created:
Body, Soul and Spirit. And it's these facets of our humanity that correspond
to the blessed principles of the ultimate in sexual expression.

Being Monogamous, i.e. only enjoying sex with one person, meets the needs of
our souls

It is when we spend a long, long time with one person that our souls are
nourished. Whether opposites attract, or whether like-minded people are
attracted to one another, who cares? Either situation can be extremely
happy. It all depends on how we deal with our differences and our
similarities. When two people respect one another and make the effort to be
generous, tolerant, understanding, willing to listen, forgiving and
selfless, the relationship becomes a fragrant garden of fruit: Fruits of
encouragement, support, comfort, warmth and fulfilment.

Enjoying a heterosexual relationship, i.e. between a woman and a man, meets
the needs of our bodies

Having a sexual relationship with someone of the same sex makes no sense to
me at all. There's no way that another man could thrill my body the way a
woman can. It doesn't matter how skilled he might be at sensual touch or at
exciting me sexually - it just isn't going to cut it! We were created to
bond with the opposite sex in every way, and our bodies can't help
responding naturally. I'm not being judgmental. All I'm saying is, good
heavens, folks, you don't know what you're missing! To engage in
indescribable intimacy with the woman I'm covenanted to is the most
fantastic bliss this side of heaven. Don't settle for less!

Being in a covenanted relationship feeds my spirit.

Having a promise to stick by someone for better, for worse, for richer, for
poorer, in sickness and in health - to love and to cherish, to have and to
hold is a situation in which the entire universe conspires to bless you. It
is wonderful to be able to trust.

It is terribly destructive to do anything that breaks down relationships.
Uncommitted, frivolous, short-lived sexual relationships break people, break
lives and break our fellowship with one another. The fruit of these
relationships is bitterness, anger, disillusionment, loneliness, a feeling
of having been used, disrespect, depression, vengeance, guilt and regret.

A very good measure of our behaviour in any relationship is to ask if
anything we are doing will cause any other person shame, distress or guilt.

If it does, we may enjoy the physical intimacy and even feel comforted and
possibly loved, but our spirit will shrivel up and die.

Don't go there.

If you've been down that road, face up to it and don't repeat the process.
As some wise person said:

"You're not a fool because you make mistakes. You're a fool if you don't
learn from them!"

Make love to one person, a person of the opposite sex, in the safety and
blessing of a covenanted love.

Trust me, it's wonderful

Paul

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