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Happy 2010.......and my sincere apologies for not seeing in the start of the new year with you! Here's the thing....my intended article about integrity to loved ones, took a slight twist! .............I think you will appreciate the wait!
Having looked closely at my own integrity over the past few months, I discovered I was not being totally true to who I knew I was, and therefore I began to make some important decisions. Change is good and change is very necessary, if change is for the right reasons!
For instance, if you have ever experienced being on the receiving end of someone ending your relationship, you may have felt that their decision was unfair! You may even have said to yourself and/or others, that Men/Women are cruel, heartless or other! This is a reaction that helps some people cope – it's called blame! In life, blame is pointless! Where did it ever get us? Did you ever feel really great blaming someone for some decision they made that affected you? Like, did you feel extremely happy about putting someone else down? Did your heart bust with joy? Did you feel calm and peaceful? Blame is a negative emotion that cannot bring us peace!
So, what if someone did say their goodbyes to you? They made the decision based on their own integrity to what they wanted for themselves, didn't they? Isn't this acceptable? Isn't this what you'd like to do for your own life? We all have the chance to be an integral part of our own lives – and if we are to experience all that life offers, it is important that we know; a) what we want and b) what we don't want! Sometimes that means saying goodbye to someone close!
It is interesting how there is only one letter that is the difference, between Change and Chance!!!!!
So, with change, chances appear........opportunities are discovered and life moves onward and upward.....change rarely feels negative for long anyway........if we are truly aware and understand that from birth, life is all about change!!! ........It can actually fe! el like magic!
Back to my original thoughts about integrity to loved ones...... If they are truly 'loved' wouldn't you want to ensure that they had the best that their life could bring?
Why do we buy presents for others? Perhaps.......So they can see our love in their gift.
Why do we say 'white lies' to others? Perhaps.......So they won't be hurt by something beyond their control.
Why do we choose to be open-hearted with some and closed with others? ...........Well this is where integrity becomes most important
Whatever we do in the lives of others, is a direct reflection on how much integrity we have to ourselves!
Is that understandable?
So, if you were totally on track with your goals, your strategies, your actions and activities, you will be successful with your venture!
Same goes for your health, your relationships, your financial affairs and your religious views. If you take them all seriously, you know what you are aiming for and why, your absolute integrity will shine through and they will ALL come to fruition! Of course we do need to prioritise so our energies are directed accordingly. Do we consciously do this? Sometimes not – and then we wonder "Why me?!" "Why does this always happen?", "Why does this never work out?" – It can be a never-ending stream of Why's – Yet if we listen closely to that word, should we not be 'being' WISE?!!!
Have some clarity, create some WHY's and become WISE!
Still, where does integrity come in here?
Ask yourself; "For whom am I doing all this?" – And your answer should reveal whose life you are being 'integral' to!!
At the beginning, I had thought that being integral to others' lives was a good thing – in fact one of the most important – then I realised that Integrity begins at home – with YOU! (In my case, with me!)
If I ! am not f ulfilling my own desires, if I am not enjoying my own relationships, if I am not excited about my own career, who will be? These are the questions I would like YOU to ask of your own lifestyle. Choose to have integrity with your own life and you will still help others with theirs! Your light will shine so brightly when you are living your life on purpose, with integrity and peace and passion. The alternative can produce stress, illness and unhappiness. People get grumpy – and I am not surprised when I hear them talk!
So, what did the research on my own integrity reveal to me? Oh there were quite a few decisions I was making that did not fit with my long-term dream of becoming a published author in print. I was not working with the age-group that I relate best to! I also found that my friendships and relationships were lop-sided and lacking in some areas....so what did I do? What actions did I take?
I became an 'integral' part of my own life!
AND....I can tell you that my actions and my decisions have begun to reap great rewards. In fact I am living proof that this simple activity works! I have more to tell you in the next article, so please do come back to catch up with what I have learned and continue to share wholeheartedly with you here on the LOVE Blog!
Until next time, make INTEGRITY your first and last loving activity each day – for the whole of your life to become whole!
Loving you and yours, your friend
Andrea N. Smart
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