Now that you've been exposed to how the Law of Attraction responds to your emotions and beliefs, you might be wondering what you could have been thinking to provoke such bizarre past relationships, or even some you're involved in right now.

Before you beat yourself up, remember that what we send out to the Universe is usually done in our subconscious and by default. You might not have consciously sent out the energy that attracted that group to your side, but they showed up anyway, like ants at a picnic. Want to know why?

One of the foundations of the Law of Attraction is that all of your personal relationships are simply a mirror of the relationship you have with YOU. One way to check this out is to see if there's a common theme running through your relationships. Do other people treat you like you treat yourself? Does any of this sound familiar?

When you make mistakes do you berate yourself mentally until you feel beat up and useless? Are your demands on yourself more than is necessary to do a good job or be a competent homemaker?

How many times do you push yourself harder than is necessary? Do you ignore your own care to take care of someone else? Do you neglect your own well being and forget to nurture yourself? Do you find yourself surrounded by people who do not respect your or your efforts to provide for their needs? Do you allow yourself to be mistreated?

Have you noticed that most of the people in your life do not care about you? Does anyone really love you, or are you just a convenient person to have around while they wait for someone significant to fill up their lives? If so, turn your attention back on you and see if you treat yourself the same way.

Make a list of some of the actual qualities of your relationships with the people in your life. Be sure to include family members, your spouse or partner, children, friends and co-workers. Take some time with this list and don't hurry through it. This is the first step you have to take in order to begin to make the changes needed to attract what you have always wanted in the people gathered around you.

Don't make this task complicated and difficult. Just list the people in your life and leave room for the qualities that define the way they relate to you AND how you relate to them. Look particularly for the actions and attitudes that actually define your relationships.

When your list is as complete as you can make it, think about how you actually treat yourself. Find any recurring themes that subconsciously defined your friends and lovers throughout your life and right now. Do those themes tell you how you treat yourself? Probably.

Let's change that using the principles of the Law of Attraction.

Think about how you would like to be treated. What do you want from a new group of friends? List a few qualities that are important to you that you have NOT been receiving from your relationships up to now.

When those two lists are completed to your satisfaction, answer this question: Are you willing to start treating yourself the same way you'd like others to treat you? If your answer was "Yes" we have work to do. If it was "No" go back to the beginning of this article and start over.

The quality of what you send out to the Universe and the Law of Attraction matches the quality of what the Universe will send back to you. It's true and it's exactly that simple.

When you change the way you treat yourself, wonderful things start happening all around you. Other people treat you exactly like you treat yourself. New relationships form that are fulfilling. Remember that all your relationships are copies of your relationship with yourself.

Perhaps you've been without any intimate relationships in your life for years. Let's think about that a little. Are you still waiting for someone to find you and sweep you off your feet? It's a great fantasy, but do you know what that attitude really means? Usually it means that you are not yet open for a strong, personal relationship.

The truth here is that you are blocking the possibility of intimate relationships by your self-treatment and resulting negative energy sent to the Universe.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself. Are you frightened about yet again having your heart hurt? Does the thought of trusting again frighten you? Do you believe that you deserve intimacy and true love? If not, you will not improve your life any until you can change how you treat yourself.

Make small changes to start with and notice the improvement. The Law of Attraction will fill your life with love and abundance as soon as you let it.

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