What you need to do, in a nutshell, is start living like you already have your ideal partner in your life. When you can create and maintain this reality, you will be living your life inside the reality you are trying to attract.

You can do this by adjusting your thoughts and emotions away from waiting and hoping for the arrival of your dream lover to actually being the person your future mate would want to be with. You need to think, feel and act like someone who already has their dream partner in their life.

Your ideal partner can be blocked from finding you if you focus on your loneliness or the isolation you feel lost in. Can you hear love songs without feeling sad and sorry for yourself? Does the sight of other happy couples make you impatient about waiting for your life to fill with love?

What those emotions are doing is making sure that you live in the emotion of the LACK of an ideal partner you want. Feeling isolated, lonely, sad and sorry rapidly builds barriers and emotional blockages that will prevent the Law of Attraction from sending you any abundance. You have to turn those emotions around and send out positive, happy vibrations to the Law of Attraction if you want to attract a mate.

The following techniques will help you turn your negativity and fear around and make your emotions and thoughts send the right vibrations out to the Universe.

==> Start thinking and feeling like your ideal partner is already in your life. I know this sounds too simple, but it does work.

==> Instead of feeling lonely and isolated, feel loved and cherished. Be happy everyday and project a secure attitude rather than sad and sorry.

==> If you can feel happiness when you see other couples, you will be sending joy and a feeling of being connected with an intimate significant other to the Law of Attraction.

==> Using the power of gratitude, romantic movies and love songs will add pure joy to your heart. Be grateful for the inspiration they instill in you to attract the attention of the Universe.

==> Affirmations that your soul mate will come into your life at the right moment, along with the belief that your significant other is already here, will send a powerful beacon to the Law of Attraction the will get results. Don't just wish for it behind your affirmations. KNOW it is true. Feel grateful that you have that knowledge.

Affirming and visualizing that your ideal partner is already in your life is powerful and effective, but it's not enough unless you make it real for you, like you are already involved. Visualize the activities you would both enjoy.

Now, start LIVING the activities you've been visualizing. If picnics in the park are one of your visualizations, have a picnic there often. Go out to dinner where you visualize your intimate, romantic dates with your ideal partner. If following through on these activities alone isn't comfortable for you, take a friend out to dinner or share your picnic with a family member.

The things you really want in your life will appear once you start living like your significant other is already part of your life.

Attracting anything in your life, whether it's more money, a better job or your dream lover, is achieved the same way. Get a very specific picture of what type of person you want to enter your life. Make room in your closet and your life. If you focus your beliefs and feelings on the type of life partner you want and making it real, the Law of Attraction will send you more than you expected. That's how it works.

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The question you have to answer if you want to find and keep the intimate relationship the Universe will send you is, "Do you have room in your life for a new person?"

Besides needing to make room in your closet, adding a new person in your life will require changes in your daily routine that might cause some stress before you find a comfortable new routine. If you've been looking for a life partner for a while, some of your routines and activities might be rigid enough to make adjusting to a new set of routines a stressful problem.

In order to make a comfortable transition, you can start making ample room for your new relationship right now, before the Law of Attraction fills your wish list. There's three major areas of concern that can be adjusted before they become problems and create distress in your new relationship.

==>Do you have time for a committed relationship in your daily schedule?

When the Law of Attraction sends your perfect partner, the thrill of it all will tend to take over your entire life for a while. You will be so much in love that you will drop everything to enjoy the new sensations and deep feelings that are filling up all the empty places you've felt for a long time. While this might be considered normal with new lovers, it can be disastrous to the rest of your life.

Before you get so entangled in the abundance of love the Law of Attraction sends you that you ignore life's necessities, make adjustments in your schedule that will allow you to enjoy your new life to the fullest. Maintain contacts with your family and friends. Do not neglect your job.

What you can do, however is decide which activities you use to just fill up your free time so you are not alone 24/7 on evenings and weekends. Keep the ones important to you, but remove the ones that are not. If you don't have time to spend exploring the pleasures your new relationship and creating new activities to enjoy together, neither one of you will be happy together.

==>Are you making room for your new partner in your home?

Take a look around your home and see if there actually is room for someone else in your life. New relationships come with furniture, clothing, books and a whole list of possessions that will need space. Can you provide the space needed to make your partner comfortable?

Create the space before the Law of Attraction fills it for you.

==>Are you emotionally ready to accept your perfect partner in your life?

Emotional acceptance will require you to clean up your own fears and put away negative memories of past relationships that fell apart. If you don't, the Universe will send you more of the same instead of a perfect partner. You can do this with positive affirmations and clear visualizations, which send your exact message to the Law of Attraction.

It's one thing to create emotional space in your life for an intimate relationship and quite another when your dream partner turns up with a U-Haul and a pet dog.

While you are waiting for your perfect partner to appear on the wings of the Law of Attraction, make room physically in your life and in your heart. Sharing you life with another requires openness, honesty and intimate communication.

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The first thing you can do to start the energy flowing from you to the Universe is to quit trying to attract your dream partner.

Here's why.

When you concentrate your energies and emotions on finding the perfect one to hang your romantic feelings on you are sending a very strong message to the Universe that screams "need." And what's the Universe going to do? Send you some more need to dwell on, of course.

If you go to every party or gathering with the expectation of finally meeting "The One," you will feel disappointment and the Universe will notice and send you some more of the same. Feeling disappointment is a negative emotion and emotions and feelings are actually frequencies of energy that carry your message to the Law of Attraction.

If you are willing to let your expectations go, to quit holding them tightly against your heart, you will quit trying to orchestrate or control how the abundance from the Universe gets sent to you. This is a necessary step you have to take in order to change what vibrations you are sending out.

Another mistake you might make is expecting every social event or small gathering of friends to be the time you will meet "The One." That also signals desperation and need to the Universe. Instead, change your focus to the people around you and enjoy them as friends. Looking at everyone you meet as potential love partners is a beacon of need that pierces the Universe like an arrow.

You will have to be open to new experiences in order for your perfect partner to find you. When you create openings for your potential partner to fill, it makes it more likely that someone looking for you will fill that opening.

While it might be a good idea to go places where your perfect partner might go and engage in activities for the same reason, remember that your perfect partner can find you anyplace. Don't exhaust yourself trying to be everywhere at once.
So, can you actually attract someone specific using the Law of Attraction?

If the person is attracted to you also, the answer is yes. You cannot force attraction, no matter how much you want it. If the object of your desire does not want to be with you, it will never happen. Save yourself heartache and don't try to force relationships.

If you want to get back with someone you've broken up with and they're not interested, the same warning applies. If you're still carrying those feelings, you have to release them. There is no way for the energies of the Law of Attraction to be used this way. It won't work and will backfire on you.

It more productive and beneficial to your emotional well-being to believe that there certainly is someone who will be better for you. This someone possibly has a lot of the same qualities as the person you just broke up with. Just believe that there's a better match out there just waiting to find you. That's all you have to do. Just Believe!

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The people in your life and the way they treat you is directly a result of the way YOU think about yourself. The simple fact is that your relationship with yourself is what attracts your friends and lovers or sends them away.

It is easy to start feeling fractured, or less that whole when you do not have a romantic relationship that consumes you with love and passion. You feel empty and search for love to make you feel whole. As long as you feel that way, the Law of Attraction will keep sending the same unsatisfying energy back at you.

Here's the truth: You are whole already. You never were empty and drained of the qualities that would make you whole once again. That feeling of emptiness, though, might be driving you to look for Mr. or Mrs. Right everywhere so you can feel connected and part of a relationship that completes you.

Unless you change the way YOU feel about yourself and start treating yourself the way you want to be treated, nothing will change in your relationships. Your search for a "soul mate" will come up empty.

Think about YOUR image of your "soul mate," or passionate lover, that you have been looking for most of your life. What picture do you have buried in your heart that the Universe keeps sending back to you in various forms? Was your image of the lover you want in your life crafted by Hollywood images or, even earlier, by fairytales? Might be time for a new image.

Here's a simple method of changing your relationship with yourself and making a new image of the perfect partner you wait for.

You are in total control of your reality. When you believe that you do not deserve a passionate relationship or that you have to create one that might be "good enough" from the people in your life that treat you shabbily, you are wrong.

Change your belief and your reality will change with it. That's the simple, but
extremely powerful, concept that will remove all the blockages you've created and start attracting better relationships for you.

It is YOUR job to make yourself happy and whole and not anyone else's responsibility. When your perfect partner, or romantic lover, drops into your life, you need to be happy, secure and a complete person, BEFORE they find you.

You are sending emotional frequencies to the Law of Attraction 24/7 when you focus on what you want from the Universe. That includes romantic partners. Feelings of desperation, lack and sorrowful need just attract more of the same to make you feel deeper desperation and need.

Feeling happy and fulfilled by the conditions of your life, including your own activities and accomplishments, will send frequencies of happiness to the Universe. You know what that means, don't you? The Universe will send you happy people to match the change in your feelings and beliefs. One of those happy people would probably be your life partner.

Simplicity is the call to action here. Your present state of lack or neediness was created by your relationship with yourself. Change that by moving your attitudes and beliefs about yourself into a more positive approach and your entire life will change for the better.

Visualize what you want like it was already a fact. Practice affirmations that are specific to what you want from the Universe. Consciously be grateful for the love already in your life. Just believe.

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With the frenetic pace of most lives over the last couple of decades, you probably were too involved in everyday problems to notice the arrival of your "Perfect Partner" and let the answer to your desires pass on by.

It's never too late to change all that and send a new focused signal to the Universe that will get a return to match your vision of your perfect partner. Here's how to do that.

The first thing you have to do is be happy with yourself and feel like a whole person. When you rely on another person to make you feel complete, it will never happen. When you have changed your attitude and moved past your previous fears and feelings of not being worthy of a satisfying intimate relationship, you will be ready to attract your perfect partner.

If you haven't moved on yet, spend some time sending gratitude for what you already have to the Universe, practicing positive affirmations and just believing that you deserve loving intimacy.

Before your dream relationship can even start you have to decide in detail exactly what traits you want your partner to have. The more specific you can be, the better chance you have of manifesting the perfect person to fill your dreams. Let's make a list of the qualities you want.

Get a piece of paper and write down these questions, leaving enough room between them to note specific traits:

>> What do you imagine your partner will look like?

>> What type of personality will your future mate have?

>> Will your partner have spiritual beliefs? If yes, what will they be?

>> Does he or she have future ambitions? What are they?

>> What activities do you imagine the two of you will enjoy?

Be as detailed as you can be. Leave nothing out that's important to you. When you are finished, read over your list to make sure you covered everything you want in the "Perfect Partner" for you.

Go back over the list and circle any qualities or traits that YOU have.

Now ask yourself these questions. Will your partner and you have the same spiritual beliefs? Do you have the same type of personality? Are your ambitions the same or close to it?

Notice how many traits you have and compare that number with the number that you DO NOT share with the partner you are trying to attract. With that comparison in mind, do you think the person you described in your list IS the perfect person for you? Do you think you would be the perfect person for the partner you described?

You and your partner would be two separate people with differences. That is to be expected. If the differences are many and you see that you would have very little in common with your dream partner, what you have been dreaming about is probably not realistic.

You don't have to throw out your dream or burn your list. Note the traits and qualities on your list that are important to you and do not match those you already have. Write them down on another piece of paper or highlight them with a marker.

Start developing those traits missing from your compatibility list. Don't go at it with a vengeance. Be easy. Start visualizing yourself with the quality you want to develop, like you already have developed it. See yourself as a person with that quality. Recite affirmations, beginning with "I am..."

When your perfect partner finds you, both of you will recognize the other by the matching feelings and energy being exchanged. When YOU are the perfect partner for the partner you want, the attraction will be magic.

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Now that you've been exposed to how the Law of Attraction responds to your emotions and beliefs, you might be wondering what you could have been thinking to provoke such bizarre past relationships, or even some you're involved in right now.

Before you beat yourself up, remember that what we send out to the Universe is usually done in our subconscious and by default. You might not have consciously sent out the energy that attracted that group to your side, but they showed up anyway, like ants at a picnic. Want to know why?

One of the foundations of the Law of Attraction is that all of your personal relationships are simply a mirror of the relationship you have with YOU. One way to check this out is to see if there's a common theme running through your relationships. Do other people treat you like you treat yourself? Does any of this sound familiar?

When you make mistakes do you berate yourself mentally until you feel beat up and useless? Are your demands on yourself more than is necessary to do a good job or be a competent homemaker?

How many times do you push yourself harder than is necessary? Do you ignore your own care to take care of someone else? Do you neglect your own well being and forget to nurture yourself? Do you find yourself surrounded by people who do not respect your or your efforts to provide for their needs? Do you allow yourself to be mistreated?

Have you noticed that most of the people in your life do not care about you? Does anyone really love you, or are you just a convenient person to have around while they wait for someone significant to fill up their lives? If so, turn your attention back on you and see if you treat yourself the same way.

Make a list of some of the actual qualities of your relationships with the people in your life. Be sure to include family members, your spouse or partner, children, friends and co-workers. Take some time with this list and don't hurry through it. This is the first step you have to take in order to begin to make the changes needed to attract what you have always wanted in the people gathered around you.

Don't make this task complicated and difficult. Just list the people in your life and leave room for the qualities that define the way they relate to you AND how you relate to them. Look particularly for the actions and attitudes that actually define your relationships.

When your list is as complete as you can make it, think about how you actually treat yourself. Find any recurring themes that subconsciously defined your friends and lovers throughout your life and right now. Do those themes tell you how you treat yourself? Probably.

Let's change that using the principles of the Law of Attraction.

Think about how you would like to be treated. What do you want from a new group of friends? List a few qualities that are important to you that you have NOT been receiving from your relationships up to now.

When those two lists are completed to your satisfaction, answer this question: Are you willing to start treating yourself the same way you'd like others to treat you? If your answer was "Yes" we have work to do. If it was "No" go back to the beginning of this article and start over.

The quality of what you send out to the Universe and the Law of Attraction matches the quality of what the Universe will send back to you. It's true and it's exactly that simple.

When you change the way you treat yourself, wonderful things start happening all around you. Other people treat you exactly like you treat yourself. New relationships form that are fulfilling. Remember that all your relationships are copies of your relationship with yourself.

Perhaps you've been without any intimate relationships in your life for years. Let's think about that a little. Are you still waiting for someone to find you and sweep you off your feet? It's a great fantasy, but do you know what that attitude really means? Usually it means that you are not yet open for a strong, personal relationship.

The truth here is that you are blocking the possibility of intimate relationships by your self-treatment and resulting negative energy sent to the Universe.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself. Are you frightened about yet again having your heart hurt? Does the thought of trusting again frighten you? Do you believe that you deserve intimacy and true love? If not, you will not improve your life any until you can change how you treat yourself.

Make small changes to start with and notice the improvement. The Law of Attraction will fill your life with love and abundance as soon as you let it.

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Why? Because the emotions behind your dreams of romance in the arms of a prince on a white horse are stronger than most of the other dreams you have. The need for romance or close personal relationships lives in every one of us and the Law of Attraction will deliver the object of your dreams as soon as you tell it what you want.

Your thoughts, coupled with your emotions, send signals to the Universe 24/7, whether you know it or not. What that means to you is that the condition of your love life reflects what you believe you deserve to have or are afraid to reach for.

The basic truth about the Law of Attraction is that whatever you focus on the most, the feelings and attitudes behind your desires, will get a response from the Universe to match what you are sending out. Wondering about all those strange people around you with less than positive attractive traits? Are you surrounded by people you have nothing in common with? You thought them up.

Think for a moment about the current state of your personal intimate life. Do you have a relationship with a significant other, a loving, intimate connection that satisfies you? Or are you waiting for the most perfect person to fall into your life? How long do you plan on waiting?

Most of us create our lives by accident, by default, as a shield against rejection and fear or to avoid feeling left out of the mating game, so to speak. You can change all that, regardless of how deeply this pain or fear is ingrained into your heart. Let's start right now.

We are all spiritual beings and the reality of the circumstances of our lives is the product of our thoughts and emotions on a day-today basis. We don't actively set about to create what we don't want. We just don't know how to change the circumstances that we've held close to our hearts so long that they seem normal.

The Law of Attraction works in simple and very direct ways and will send what you want or need straight into your life and heart, if you can change what you think and feel about your dream lover.

Let's start with the most powerful of the spiritual vibrations you can use to make changes: Gratitude. Instead of feeling lonely and not worthy, start feeling real gratitude for the people in your life that you are connected to. Those people can be family members, co-workers or neighbors. It doesn't matter who they are. Just be grateful for their existence in your life and express it in your thoughts everyday.

That process would be using positive affirmations and visualizations to rid you of your fears and replace them with people who care about you.

The next very necessary change you need to make is to erase the limiting beliefs you have about your attractiveness or ability to find real love. When you limit your beliefs about yourself, you block the things you've been emotionally asking for. Change your beliefs and your life will change.

This is a subtle and possible giant stumbling block when you first set out to make dramatic changes in your life. Even if you have all the best and positive emotions and feelings generated and express gratitude all day long, one limiting belief will toss all your hard work to the curb to make room for the Universe's express delivery to match that belief.

If you don't believe you deserve love and an intimate relationship to go with it, you won't get it. If you believe that other people are not trustworthy or will hurt you, you will fill your life with people who match your fears.

It's simple. Fill your life with GRATITUDE for what you do have and BELIEVE you can find love and the Universe will send you so much love that it will knock you off your feet. Open your heart and get ready. It's on the way.

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