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I have met many people in my time who go to one personal development course after another, have a library of self-development books and always complain that 'nothing has worked'. There's a good reason for this: the way we feel about ourselves - that which makes us a self-confident and self-assured individual - is a direct result of the beliefs we hold about ourselves. And unless those beliefs are changed from negative and damaging to positive and inspiring, we will always feel ourselves to be lacking in some regard.
Let's face it, if we didn't think we were lacking in some way, we wouldn't feel the need to attend a personal development course, would we!
Self-acceptance is one of the mightiest aspects of self-empowerment. We really cannot empower ourselves if we do not believe we deserve everything that empowerment can bring us.
Let's say, for example, that you want to be more successful (in whatever way you define success). You've been to lots of seminars and workshops. You've worked your way through a myriad of courses. You've bought the latest popular book and religiously followed the exercises contained within it. For a couple of days - or weeks - you feel good. By the time a month has elapsed you feel exactly the same as before you started the course, workshop or book. Why?
BECAUSE YOU HAVE UNDERLYING BELIEFS THAT STOP YOU FROM BEING THE BEST YOU CAN BE.
We are programmed as children with more negative beliefs about ourselves than I care to mention. Parents are a wonderful source of ensuring their children take on the baggage of shame, guilt and not being good enough. In other words, parents can make their children believe that they are not good enough … hence the need for self-improvement courses.
But … Where there is self-acceptance, improvement is inevitable. We all want to become more, do more and enjoy life to the fullest. That's what an empowered life is all about – being positive, optimistic and downright happy!
Empowered people are all this a! nd more. They are successful. Very. What's important is not how others see their success, but how they view success in relation to themselves.
We are not born with the belief system we have. Our belief system was LEARNED. So, if you feel yourself to be a failure, that limiting belief will stop you from being happy . The first thing you need to do is find out who was responsible for teaching you this particular negative lesson. A lesson which you then took on board as a truth, filing it away in your subconscious to do who-knows-what damage.
The bottom line is, of course, that the offending belief has to be identified! And identify it you must because it is your beliefs that govern the quality of your life. Each belief you have produces emotions which can be constricting – which means that in order to change a belief system, you need to rid yourself of the emotions which surround tit.
Can a belief system be changed? Absolutely! Since beliefs are learned, they can be unlearned … and relearned in new ways. All it takes from you is a willingness to get up close and personal with memories you may want to keep buried, and the desire to be open-minded. Not much, eh It takes courage to change a belief system.
There's a definite process to follow: Identify the belief that holds you back, Create a new one, and . Strengthen it.
If you don't think you can do this yourself, seek out a professional - practitioner or therapist - who can help you. Think of the cost as an investment in your future. As examples: psychologists (as opposed to psychiatrists), hypnotherapists, acupuncturists and practitioners of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Surf the Net to find out more about each modality (and discover other useful ones) and see which would suit you (if any).
Other articles which you may find useful are: There Is NO Such thing As Failure Breaking Free Why not check them out.
Don't wait any longer.
Make this new year the cat! alyst fo r discovering the real you.
Here's to becoming a butterfly in 2010.
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * About the author: Barbara Rose is the author of How To Be A Success. You can find this book at http://www.barbaras-library.com As a problem-solver, she is a mentor, coach, teacher, alternative therapist and writer who specializes in helping people reach their potential at all levels (spiritual, emotional, mental and physical). You can find out more about Barbara by visiting www.barbara-rose.name* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * |
