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One of our first desires is to be able to write our names. It gives us the ability to mark things as ours.
Everyone likes to mark their own turf. Some of us are more vehement about this than others.
We love to imagine all of the things that could be ours. Would all of these things really be beneficial in your life? Could they harm you if they aren't something that you are mentally and emotionally ready for?
Do you have actual plans for your future or are you just winging it and using the "good enough" approach? Are you just going in circles and wondering why you haven't gained any ground?
Do you respect other's boundaries, or is yours the most important life line that crosses into every one else's for your own selfish needs? Do you make a mess out of your life and leave it for everyone else in your life to figure out? Can you even see another's point of view?
Do you throw up lines and dare others not to cross them? If they did, would you give them a second chance, or just carry out whatever threat you devised?
Do you lock others out of your circle so that you can feel safe? Are you noticing any patterns like this emerging in your life?
To have a relationship with others, it takes two people.
It takes a group of people to accomplish anything in the long run. Even if you are creative, it takes others to publish, advertise and sell your works, not counting the people who are buying your works. You can't accomplish anything without other people. Family is a good place to start practicing including people in to your life.
If you are the most bright and brilliant person in the world, what good is that if no one knows it! You can be a bright and brilliant face, shining like the sun, onto others to help them with their day.
Then there's the opposite sex. If you are not open and giving with yourself, you will soon be alone again. Everyone wants an open, loving, giving and caring relationship that can be held up to the light. To have a relationship that is closed, apathetic, cheap and you feel like the other person could care less if you dropped dead, can be the beginning of the end. Many abused people live in the darkness of such a relationship because they feel like they have to. You don't! Get out!
Would you like to be living in a mansion, but a shack is your current situation? How did the person who's mansion you admire, get theirs? Could you take steps to make that kind of a life for yourself? Will you? If you don't make the effort to make your house a home, a shack may be all that you'll ever see. Home is not the building you live in, but the feeling in your heart that makes you feel like, "this is mine", "I belong here". I have seen some lovely cottages that any queen would find beautiful no matter how small or old they were.
When we pay attention to the details in other's lives, they will notice and take the time to notice our lives. Don't think about what baggage the other one is dragging behind them, just notice them here and now. If your own arms are full of baggage, then you can't help them with theirs. We each have to walk our own journey through this life, but we can have companions on the way. Sometimes we can carry one another, or hold one another, but we can't walk their journey for them.
Do you want that hot sport car instead of your little economy clunker? Could you afford it in your current life situation? What would it give you that you don't have now? If the answer involves other people, are those the kinds of people that you would want in your life anyway?
Do you think of some people as cool while others are not? On what basis is that, and do the uncool people have things that they like that the cool people don't fall in line with? So, that then makes the cool people not cool to the original not cool group. It's best to be in with your in crowd than anyone else's.
Most lone people have pets. How can some people be loving and caring to animals, but not people? It takes familiarity, just like with the pet. To get to know another's behavior and wants and needs and to respond to them in the best way that you can.
To get that house on the hill, would be nice, but wouldn't we be more fulfilled and happy with a life full of loving, caring people surrounding us as we join in the circle that surrounds them?
To have our own jet, boat, limo., etc. would be convenient, but what if we didn't have anyone to share them with? Wouldn't that luster wear off fairly quickly?
Are you always trying to steal someone else's significant other? Isn't that just a cheap thrill for awhile? Wouldn't it be better to find someone who loves you completely and just isn't looking for a trade-up?
Women, are shiny things really what you want from your men, or would you rather have the shining acts of caring, consideration, loving attention, and affection that your soul craves?
Our world is full of "others". Anyone who wants to separate themselves fully from them is just trying to save themself from some pain that haunts them, or they are just so delusional about their own superiority, that they are tortured by the rest of us.
Perspective is the important thing. If you are looking at others and at life from a dark place, you will see darkness. If you isolate yourself, you will be lonely. If you punish others, you will be punished yourself, and are punishing yourself. If you look at others with no judgements, no preconcieved notions for them, no expectations just see them as they are, then you can get to know them and open yourself up for them to know you. That is how we make our mark on the world. I have heard the saying that the one with the most toys wins in the end, but I put to you that the one with the most joys wins in the end. You can't take it with you, but love lives on. Think about it.
Until next blog!
Love, Angelia
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