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Remember all of the adventures that Pinnochio had? How he had to go through his tasks to become "a real boy"?
Any of you who are parents know that potty-training is not going to happen until the child is ready.
How many times have you just known that you were ready for something, only to realize that you weren't, you just thought that you were? That's a big disappointment isn't it? To take that leap of faith, then fall flat on your face is, well, humiliating. Others may laugh at us, or harass us for having faith enough in ourselves to try and do something great that would make us happy. Then we fail, and the scoffers say, "I told you so!" and laugh at us.
Well, you know what? They're wrong. There are no such things as failures. The only failure is if you don't try. Experiences are what makes up a life. If you limit your experiences, then you don't have much of a life. Trying things is the only way that you learn and grow. If you "failed" at something, then you should think about it this way, maybe that thing just isn't for you; maybe you just need more practice; more advertisement; more knowledge of the thing in order to succeed at it.
That will be your decision. Do you believe that that something is for you? Can you be happy and truly live your vision of your life without it? If not, then you'll have to "get back up on the horse", and try again. Failure is how we learn. It does not define you as a person. Miserable people will try to label you with it, so that you feel as miserable as they do, and they feel better about themselves for a moment. Don't let them feed their spiritual and emotional garbage to you; don't swallow it! If you try, do your best and still fail, well, then you know that you gave it your best, which is better than what the naysayers who didn't even try can say.
From the beginning of our memory the positive or negative reinforcement that we get shapes our opinion of ourselves as "winners", "average" or "losers". Really, you are what you decide to be. Very few people in life have a "perfect" life where everything just falls into their lap. The rest of us have to work and go after what we want. If you give up and don't try, well, then you will be a loser. Not because you ARE a loser, but because you've lost your passion for your own life. You'll be stuck where you are, not pass go, not collect $200.00, in other words, you'll never live the life that you want if you just roll over and give up, resigning your life to fate.
There are things in life that we just can't control. Don't punish yourself, or others because circumstances were beyond your control. You may just have to back up, clean up the mess for yourself, and move on.
We all run our race at our own pace. No matter what your age, it's never to late to decide to be who you really are. It will happen when you are ready. When all of the things that need to bring about your change to your own best advocate and friend have come about. You may be 20 or you may be 60. It doesn't matter. When you are ready to love yourself and show yourself compassion, the world will open up for you like a blooming lotus.
No matter what age or stage you are at, you'll be real when you're ready. You just have to make that decision to create the reality that you want, and then do it.
Good luck, I wish you all of your dreams come true!
Until next blog!
Love, Angelia
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