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When we are kids, we know who we are. We know what we like, and don't like. We know what we want to be when we grow up.
Half of us lose that somewhere along the way.
Remember that preschool child that you were who loved to do that thing that you used to do?
Were you going to be president or a police officer, or a fireman?
Were you going to be a ballerina or a singer, or a judge?
As we grow, our minds become more cluttered, and therefore less in tune with who we are. We have to learn to "be good", and "pay attention" and listen when "they" are talking. We have to learn to tame our joy so as not to upset the grown-ups. Then we have to go to school and learn all kinds of things that we don't know how they will possibly help us some day. Some of us like school, (even love it!) some of us don't. Then comes college or a trade school or just work and then when we jump into the work place we have to put into play all of those social niceties that our parent and teachers taught us. We have to compete to get ahead and are under stress daily, unless we're one of the lucky ones who get to do only what they love and have no stress in our work life. In all of that adaptation and assimilation, we can get lost.
How can we measure what we have lost? Did we have to give up on dreams? Did we have to "sell out" to pay the bills? We all have to make concessions to get along with others out there in life.
Some people wake up at middle age and say, "Whoa! Hey! Wait a minute! This is not what I wanted for my life. This is not where I wanted to be at this stage of my life!"
That's the time that we have to take stock of our reality and see what is was that we gave up to get what we have. Then we can decide where to go from there.
Is our life as meaningful as we want it to be? Or, is it all a superficial show put on for the Jones' of this world? Many more men get lost in the shuffle than women. The bad thing about that is, many more men accept it as a fact of life and don't do anything about it. They just go along because they think that that is what they're supposed to do. It's the manly way. How many men do you see in the self-help book section of the store? What do you think of them when you do see them there?
Women, with our triple connections between the two sides of our brains, more readily admit that we're struggling with our identity. That who we are now, is not who we would like to be. If I hear one more man say, "it's too late" to change his life into what he'd like it to be, I'll scream! It's only too late when you're being lowered into the ground. Until then, it's never too late.
Do you want to grow up and be who you were meant to be? I know that I do, and I'm falling more and more into "me" every day. I've got my groove back, so to speak, and I'm living "who" I want to be. Male or female, no matter what your background, you can be who you want to be. You just have to reach out and grab for that brass ring before you can actually touch it. Sound too simple? Well, it's not. It can be very hard! It can be scary, because you have to venture into unfamiliar territory. You are a child of our Creator, and which ever name you give to Them, you have an inborn strength if you choose to draw on it, to do whatever calls you. You just have to decide to do it. "That first step's a doozey!" as they say. Go ahead, take that leap of faith! I DARE you!
Until next blog!
Love, Angelia
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