If your family is resistant, remember that most people prefer routine and don’t necessarily enjoy change. You might know they will love the outcome, but they don’t see that. Let them know that it is important for change to come from within the entire family. As a unit, you will be far more effective. It might take them a little time to come around. Lead by example, even when you think no one’s looking.

Remember to be patient with those who don’t jump on board immediately. Your children’s behaviors are reflections of things you’ve taught them. If you haven’t been living your purpose this whole time, and suddenly you decide it’s time to start, they might not see the need for it. Changing patterns does take time, and if you try to force them into it, they could be more resistant. If you tell your children that they now have a new chore to do—to make miracles—they might want to run and hide in their rooms. But if you let them know that you’re going to play a new game with them, your chances of success will increase.

Have an emergency family meeting. If they appear hesitant, ask them what they think the family purpose should be. Discuss the possibilities and agree on one central mission. Next, define the individual goals, allowing each person to choose his own path. Each family member needs to be encouraged to meet these goals.

If the first meeting doesn’t go smoothly, remember this, negativity is contagious, and if there have recently been ill thoughts in the air, they’re just reacting to the vibrations. Don’t get down about it. They will recover. Positivism will catch on and eventually spread like wildfire. Be gently persistent. A hidden law of the universe says that when you put in order, chaos blows. This is a good thing. This is a sign that better times are on the horizon. Let them protest and acknowledge them. Don’t turn it into a fight. If you do, you loose.

What is your family’s mission statement? WHO DOES WHAT?

Write a job description for each family member. If you’re not sure, ask the individuals how they think they can contribute to your group success. Parent ___________ Parent ___________ Child ___________ Child ___________

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Hold frequent family meetings to update your goals and dreams and keep current with each other’s visions. This is a good time to review weekly schedules, chores, and events. Working together, all members of the family can achieve their mutual goals. Strategize with your family so that everyone knows the big picture and how they fit into the outcome. Each member of the team should know the position they play and how to support the others.

We always started with chanting “om”, because it sounded good to us and calmed us down until we were ready. Then each of us would share one or two miracles that have happened. Once complete, we would discuss our personal goals and how we are creating our personal success. We then move onto the family goals and how we are working with them.