Improving Yourself

Life seems to be passing you by, it feels at times as if you are invisible. Nobody seems to notice you as you walk down the street, going about your daily business.

You suddenly think, "Would anyone really care if I didn't exist anymore?"

People would care, but often you have closed the door to them. They want to be part of your life, but you don't think you are worthy of their love and support.

You walk with your head bowed down, trying to be insignificant and then wonder why nobody bothers.

You look so sad, and you have a heavy heart. You want to change but you have no idea what to do.

It is easy to feel these thoughts especially if you have been programmed from an early age to believe you don't deserve success.

* You don't deserve to be happy

* It is your fault that other people are suffering

* You are useless

* You are a failure

* You were a mistake

Does this sound like you? If so, then read on because help is close at hand for you today. But the help is only available when you take the first move of wanting to change.

Abused people become abusers. Now that is a bold statement but stop and think about it for a moment. You might have been sexually or physically abused, and you have made the decision to do exactly the opposite to your spouse or children. But there is more to being abused than the physical and sexual abuse. There is mental abuse, and verbal abuse, and people who have been abused this will pass it on. They might not even consider it but if you are told something often enough, you will believe it. Consider the words you speak to your spouse or child. Are they abusive, are they destructive? You might have become an abuser without even considering what you have done.

Change is never easy, but it is possible. It won't happen overnight, and many times you will find yourself going back into the old ways, but keep persevering and you will be surprised at the new you. Get ready for a rollercoaster ride, but it will be the ride that you have been waiting for and thought it could only happen to someone else.

You will be scared, you will want to get off but when you finally reach the place you want to be you will be so changed that people around you won't recognize you are the same person.

Let's get going!

Chapter One