You Love Watching Soap Operas or Reality TV
If you belong to this group of individuals, I beg you to stop wasting your life! So far, I haven’t seen a single benefit a person has gotten from doing this. Really.
Watching this nonsense is just wasting your life. Not only that, more often than not it fills you with fears and negativity. Gossips, crying, bad language, cheating, I mean what’s good in any of that?
Turn off the TV! Now I am not suggesting to completely cease watching television in your life, but at least make it less frequent.
I don’t watch TV at all, and I feel awesome!
Instead, start educating yourself, read some great books, go out and eat something special, take your partner on a romantic evening…
You Love Perfectionism (The Wrong Way)
While this not necessarily is a bad thing, more often than not it has the exact opposite effect than improving ourselves. Trying to do everything perfectly is setting ourselves up for failure.
It literally stops us from enjoying the moment, it creates a feeling of rush and eventually, we end up not doing much. Instead, we tend to procrastinate. Understand that we as intuitive human beings are not perfect in a logical sense. Our subconscious programs and human emotions are much more complicated than the rational computer machine.
Don’t expect to do everything smoothly according to a predetermined plan. Now, see how I don’tsay “don’t plan at all” or “don’t strive for perfection”.
No! You should strive for perfection, but don’t be that much stressed about little details or doing everything perfect.
You Don’t Practice Mindfulness (Even Worse – You Don’t Know What It Is!)
Mindfulness is moment to moment awareness. It’s not only being aware…it is being AWARE that you are aware! The mindful mind is the mind which constantly observes.
It observes the various thoughts and emotions as they come and go. It is forever present “in the moment”. You see, living a mindful life, is living a life of moment to moment awareness and unfoldment.
You can never be bored or annoyed by doing this…Every second you have a mission, a goal which is focusing on your thoughts that live and exist in your inner world. And our mind is like a dancing monkey, it never stops to think, it is a machine without an off-switch!
Your job is to take control over it.
Now I’ll be straightforward upfront here… This is without question – THE HARDEST thing one can achieve in a lifetime. I mean to become completely, fully mindful.
The people who have achieved this like the Buddha for example, are very few, just a handful of individuals.
But nobody is asking that from you! All I’m suggesting is to practice this amazing skill in your life, just for little bit! Just by taking the time and living mindfully for 15min each day, you won’t be able to recognize your “new-self” in a few months.
How to practice it?
Start with simple meditation. Take 15min. each day and sit comfortably in a place where nobody can disturb you. Shut down all outside distractions including cellphones, iPads and laptops.
Take the time and focus on your breathing. Follow mindfully each and every breath. Your mind will go astray very often. Your job is not to become mad and upset because of it! Instead, just observe your thoughts and purposefully bring your attention back to the primary object of focus – your breathing.
Every time the mind starts to think of something else, you observe it, and bring it back to where it was.
As time goes by, increase the amount of time spent on meditation. Also, whenever you catch yourself during the day creating mind movies, stop it, and observe yourself in that particular moment.
Remember, too many positive emotions can be equally harmful as too many negative emotions. This is because we become dependent on outside circumstances. Something good happens, we get excited, something bad happens, self-esteem and confidence plummet down.
You need to find the balance!
There’s a great course on mindfulness called “Practicing Mindfulness: An Introduction to Meditation” from Professor Mark W. Muesse Ph.D, who teaches at the Rhodes College – just a helpful resource you might be interested in.
You Always Take Things Personally
Get this – nothing is really personal! The only way something becomes personal, is if it comes from YOU.
As odd and as strange it may sound, it’s true. For example if your boss yells and criticizes you, it is about him or her, not you. If your sale doesn’t close and you get rejected from a prospect, it’s not about you, it’s about them.
It is all about their perceptions, their attitude, their needs and their expectations, not yours. Understand that!
You can certainly influence their decisions to a certain degree, but please don’t take these things personally. Sometimes things will happen differently to how we expect and think should happen.
Focus on what you have control over – and that’s your attitude comprised of your thoughts and emotions. Do the best you can, and learn to be happy with yourself, the way you truly are.
You Don’t Act On the Things You Have Control Over
You are in full control of your inner world. You have the power to control every single thought and emotion that goes in your mind.
Start deliberately to imprint in your subconscious mind, the kind of thoughts that you choose to have.
Start using affirmations and create new positive beliefs about yourself and the world you live in.
Here’s great one for relaxation and calmness of mind:
“I feel calm and relaxed. With every inhalation I breathe in calmness and with every exhalation – stress, doubt and fear leave my mind and body”
Then take a deep breath and breathe in calmness. Exhale, and let go of all negative emotions.
Repeat this procedure for 5 minutes every time you wake up in the morning, and every time before you go to bed at night.
This Article Ends Here but Your New Journey is Just About to Begin…
Phew, now that was a long article! I’m glad you came to the end.
Happiness and peace cannot be found outside of you. You don’t find happiness or peace, you MAKE happiness and peace. They all exist right now, in the present moment. Your job is to become aware of them.
They are after all, just emotions, and all emotions happen as a result of the thoughts that we think. So start thinking about what makes you feel peaceful and happy.
Practice these tips regularly and commit to living a positive and peaceful lifestyle.
I’ll wrap everything up with one famous definition of happiness by Epicurus:
“Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.”
Guest post by Zdravko Lukovski
Zdravko Lukovski is an obsessed personal development enthusiast who loves studying and expanding the mind. He is a dedicated student of life who owns several websites including www.EnlightenmentPortal.com. If you want to read more of his writing, check out these top positive thinking exercises and activities!